DefinateMaybe07

I know when you ask advice like this you dont really want to hear about what other people went through after their loss...you want to find a way to deal with your situation. As hypocritaical as what I am going to say is....i do know what it is like to lose a person close to you. I lost a mentor to a car crash, an uncle to cancer, and a really really good guy friend in a car accident I was also in. I know the pain that comes before and after they are taken. People would always tell me.."keep a positive attitude" or " things happen for a reason" or my personal favorite "im sorry" Sorry to tell you, but the pain is there at first, and it hurts, and unfortunately, it will last. But, It does dull, and if you keep the mentality that yes, you will be seeing them again, maybe it will hurt less at some moments. You cant let the loss, or the anticipation get to you though. As impossible as this sounds, you just have to imerse yourself in other activities. talk about what your feelings with other people, as much as you can. I really am sorry you have to go through this, really I am. You can make it, it will make you a stronger person, if you let it. :)

Thank you so much for all or your advice and for how much you seem to care even though you don't really know me SO, my sis and I are getting help. We have a special counselor who we can go to any time we need to during school. I think the hardest part of this whole situation is the fact that there are so many "fake cutters" out there doing it just to get attention...so many other teens just dismiss any rumors they may hear. Which is sad because the kids that really need help have the attention drawn away from them. My sister and I arent crazy or bad kids, just ones that have had to go through tough experiences in a small amount of time...and things just seem to keep happening. O well... I hope we come trough all of this stronger. Thanks again!! :)

They probably do need a ton of attention. I have never tried to kill myself, thought about it, but not seriously. Let them talk whenever they need it, for however long they need. Always check up on them, call them, talk to them any chance you get. Sometimes they may find it hard to get a conversation started when they need to talk. Any chance you get, ask them how they are doing... be willing to listen, and be genuinly interested in what they have to say.... If someone really wanted to kill themselves, they would. I dont know your friends but it is very possible they are telling you about their "attempts" because they need your attention. Dont let them continue, if they do, they will seriously hurt themselves. If you feel like this is too much of a burden, which it is, you may want to help them find professional help. People that do these kind of things have different reasons for it, you may never truly understand why. All you can do is be there for them...hope this helps :)

I found out a month ago that my sister was cutting. Sometimes she still does. I dont know how to help her to stop, or to tell her that it is wrong because I used to cut all the time. I feel extremly hypocritical telling her to stop. I cant help her to stop because I still cut from time to time. Please look at this with an open perspective on cutting. It is a huge stress reliever, and well I cant really explain it. I had been through hell when I started. No one knew..no one really cared when I did tell them....there are just too many fake cutters out there just doing it to get attention..which I hate!! they take the attention away from the people who really need it. Back to my sis...I have no idea how to help her, we talk all the time and are really close, she is just going through too much at school, and our ward is just so ignorant to everything going on...and they arent very nice, just self-righteous and stuff...if you know what I mean. I dont feel comfortable going to the bishop, I already had to go through a buch of crap with a guy..if you know what i mean.. and my parents already know. Everyone I try to get help from just passes judgement and not help because of their take on cutting. I have no idea what to do at all, how to help her stop, how to deal with my own problems, how to make things better with the youth in my ward....please send all the advice you have

I wish I could explain "going out" but I dont think it has point either. All it does it put a lable on a girl and a guy and they are obligated to act a certian way. I think all that going out does for you is make it hard to break things off, and leaves a ton of emotional baggage. Dating is so much more fun anyways, and you can date more than one guy at a time ...not I would do something like that

so true!!

I was/am in EXACTLY the same situation... ..###### dosnt it?? Well, do you have any other wards close by or that go to the same school? You might have to look outside ur ward if you want to not be miserable anymore. and, well, another option is to date non-lds guys...watch out though, sometimes you have to be careful and always make sure you go on group dates, but there can be a ton of really good guys out there who you could date that may not be mormon, so try to stick with the ones that do have higher standards...just to be safe. :) Another thing you could try is talking to the leaders, particularly the YM leaders, they might be able to offer some advice or even plan a couple of activities centered around dating...its worth a try.

My Family is moving to Tulsa Oklahoma, and I was hoping to get to know some youth there before we move. I'm, 16 and a junior and because we are moving right after Christmas, I'm really nervous about meeting new people during my last years of High School. I am from Colorado and have heard Oklahoma is a lot different, so if anyone is from Tulsa or know anyone from there, please let me know. Thanks :)