Sorry Laureltree,
I don't agree, it's just not the same (it's (a cermony) after the fact).
My brother raised my niece by example He doesn't drink caffiene and has never smoked. He loves his wife, he has raised two wonderful children. So I don't think he has any working to do on himself as you suggested. Or does he need to change. He's a great dad, a great brother a great person!
I guess we just have to disagree.
God Bless...