gadget

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  1. Aquaponics is even better then hydroponics! Raise fish and grow plants at the same time.
  2. There is a big difference between someone with a temper problem and someone that is abusive. We all have a temper threshold. Your husband sounds like he is there and is staying there. The real question is does he ever let it go to rage? Do you ever feel unsafe? Why is he stuck at this point of frustration? Men are much more likely to express ourselves angrily then women when we get to really low or dark points in our lives. Why is he in such a low state of being?? Most men are not very good at communicating. Some are but not most. Assuming that he is not abusive and just as frustrated as you, maybe you should both ask yourselves why you got married? You mentioned that you don't want to stay with someone that makes you so unhappy, my question to you is this - is it your husbands job to make you happy?Is it your job to make him happy? Is he angry because he is drained and can't deal with your needs and maintain his own? Are you both feeling drained? I would not focus on the loss of feeling love right now. That feeling will always come back. You need to focus on why you got married in the first place. What did you expect from the marriage? Did you want someone to make you happy or someone to serve and be a support partner when needed? Does your husband expect you to make him happy? This feeling of hate you have, what is causing it??? Are you angry because he is not being someone you want him to be or doing what you want him to do? I was fortunate enough to figure out how to deal with anger and frustration before I got married. My wife would not of like me if she had married me in my early twenties. I have come a long way. Problem is your husband needs to deal with these things and figure them out and you need to deal with your own problems too while being married. There is a really good book called The Celestine Prophecy I had read that helped me figure out allot of why I was so frustrated and how such a simple thing of my spirit being empty can cause much havoc. Some of the best advice I ever got was to keep all your problems outside of your marriage and work on them together. Don't let them get between you.
  3. If my math is correct, that works out to about 20 years earth time.