Two days ago, I discovered that my husband of 6+ years has started drinking again. He is hiding it from me, but I started feeling suspicious and went searching for evidence. I found a crumpled receipt in the trash that showed he purchased vodka.
This isn't the first time that he was hiding his drinking from me. Last year I caught him in a lie about his whereabouts and when he was sleeping I went digging in and around his desk at home. I found a bottle of alcohol in his work bag. When I confronted him about it, it was like pulling teeth to get him to admit to his drinking. He finally gave me access to his bank account where I could see all of his purchases at liquor stores going back several months. He told me that he had never had a problem before. It was the stress of the job that made him start drinking. He went and talked with the Bishop and I thought he had cleaned himself up. He was able to renew his Temple recommend and I thought this problem was well in the past.
We have both been active members of the church for many, many years. I was crushed when I discovered this secret of his. I felt hurt and betrayed that he was lying to me. It has only been the last 3 weeks ago, that I've started to feel suspicious again.
Now my question to you all is this: Should I confront him with just the receipt or should I continue to look for his hiding place? I'm afraid that if I confront him with just the receipt he will throw out the bottle, I'll never know where he hides it, and he'll just be more careful in the future with his receipts. But I've looked everywhere for the last few days, and I still can't find where he might be hiding the bottle.
I hate that I can't trust my husband. Any advice?
