victoria6

Hemidakota: maybe I'm taking this the wrong way but you cannot seriously expect me to answer 'what's more important?' if it was as easy as that I wouldn't have a problem. But it's not that simple. Apologies if I've misinterpreted your question.

thanks guys, this really helps. I would definately go with the saturday idea if it weren't for the fact that's when we're travelling/arriving so would not be possible. Will make sabbath friendly suggestions and fingers crossed the weather will be good (but this is England!) that way we can maybe just have a picnic on the beach. Will go with what my sister wants I think, it's her birthday and to force my values would only create bad feeling and if anything push my family away from church. I just hope I can articulate how I feel to my Husband so as not to cause contention within our family and hopefully have him come along with us as a united family. But then is it wrong for me to expect him to change his view of the situation?!

HI, I'm new on here and thought I'd get some views on a problem I'm facing. At the end of the month my husband and I are going on holiday with all my family (who are all non-members). Whilst we're away it is my little sisters birthday, she's only 10, and will be going out to celebrate- day out/meal etc. The problem is her birthday falls on a sunday and I don't know what I should do. On the one hand I can keep the sabbath day holy but let down my family, upset my kid sister or on the other hand I can keep the peace with my family and sister but break the commandments. I'm so torn, my little sister means the world to me and she's too young to put in an awkward position of choosing between my values and her birthday, it just isn't fair to put that on her. But at the same time my husband is clear that whatever I decide he will not be taking part regardless. Advice would be much appreciated.