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He's not stopping the affair, and I can't make him. It's sexually immorality in any culture or religion not just Mormonism, I feel the need to point that out, I am not sure why. But thank you for all your advie people.

Hey Jamie, I remember 2003 very well! It was the 22nd November to be precise, they won the World Cup on my birthday, lol. Happy days! :)

England doesn't play any real sports? Rugby, my American friend, is very much a real sport

I told him to think about splitting up with his wife, after reading these replies perhaps that was an inappropriate thing to say. It certainly didn't occur to me to tell him to go to the Church for help, what are they going to do? I do honestly think that if he is cheating then surely the marriage is over, regardless of whether he carries on fooling around? But then that is my understanding of how relationships would work, I am aware all religions will work differently. I don't condone his behaviour, but nor will I be massively judgemental. If there are judgements to be made I will leave that to the higher powers, I am far from perfect myself. The only thing I struggle with is his children, they are the innocent ones stuck in the middle. One final question, then I promise I will leave this alone. What if he wants to be with this other woman? She isn't LDS, from what I can tell. Thanks.

i take divorce is a massive taboo then? i have told him he is playing with fire, and needs to think about the effects this could have. he seems to be unable to stay away from this other "woman" i guess you're right, there is not much i can do. i just wondered as i am from a secular background, and it's hard to have a conversation about things you are fairly ignorant about.

@ pam, because he is a friend and he has confided in me. i find it very hard to know what to say when i have a very narrow understanding of the workings of his church.

firstly, i apologize for crashing your forum, but i am looking for some advice. a friend of mine is mormon (i am not) and is having an affair outside his marriage. i want to know what the consequences for him would be if this was ever to become public knowledge. i have read things online, but i would prefer a more "real" view from people who are actually members of his faith. would he be excommunicated, lose his children? ruin his life? thank you in advance.