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This might be the craziest idea but it worked for me a couple years ago. It seems like the best method if none of those are working. When the thought enters your mind, you always get that 1-5secs in your head saying don't do it, as soon as you hear that warning, just yell out as loud as you can NOOO. You might feel like a fool, but gets your mind off of the temptations and listening to reason better. Go ahead and try it, if you actually do it, it will help a lot :)

Zach, what others pointed out is finding something else to do with your time. This is what can help you get away. What are the reasons you use a computer anyways now? Also are you watching tv shows that you enjoy but know you shouldn't be watching them? Here are somethings you could possibly do: - Exercise(this is the biggest thing I keep myself busy with waiting for my mission, to make it fun, set goals like getting a certain amount of strength, your dream body, running mile in a certain amount of time,etc) -Sit down and use a big piece of paper and write down all the things you can think of that you can do and hang it write next to the computer(usually we are tempted cause we start getting bored) - Get a job(helps take away a big part of the day with some money for your mission like me) - This is a weird technique but sometimes it really can help, just when the temptation pops in your mind, just YELL. It seriously works, just yell out No or something. It totally gets your mind focus and your body worked up leaving you back in control. - Self Control, its all about controlling yourself. Its hard to start with porn, but try something easier at first, like what you eat. You know you want to eat that donut but you know its bad for your body(temple of god).

Thanks, and ya I'm super excited to go down there and being able to learn a 2nd language and also being out of country :)

Well it was the only time she asked when we just in that situation lol. And like I said earlier, we mostly spent the time either walking or laying on the catch/floor watching a movie.

This is what I'm hoping in the long run, and I'm leaving December 15 to Chihuahua, Mexico Pretty much, and that is what I know whats going through her mind right now. She wants to go out and find what she really wants in life. When I was younger, I was a huge star wars geek lol. I agree with you at the beginning that if it weren't for me going on my mission right now, I would have gone full out on her instead of just letting her go so easy.

Thanks for all the replies so far. So far I feel its a lot easier already cause we already been apart cause of distance for a month in a half. Been trying to focus my mind on other things like intense exercising, but she comes to haunt me at night. I know I made a good choice to let us go are ways, but those saying that cause she was a Non Member and I shouldn't have gone with it; well I should have explained more on how she was interested in the church a lot. Every night when we would lay down together and talk, she would always ask tons of questions about the church/gospel. I would had invited her to church, but it was too late to do all that stuff cause of her leaving to college. She had full support as well for me to go on a mission, but I knew as well as a couple of you, that she wouldn't be able to wait. One of the things I wish I could go back and do is asked her out a lot earlier, cause I know if we had more than 3 months seeing each other, I know I would have had a good chance to convert her. She still wants to write to me on my mission, and like rameumptom said, maybe writing certain things to her might do something. But I am giving too much faith for this all to happen. Like you guys said, if HF has us plan, it will follow up.

Well I just went through the biggest and best relationship ever. First off I am a member and she is not, but I truly believed they she could have been converted if I was able to communicate better about the gospel which I will learn plenty soon because I leave for my mission in 3 months. We met in 2nd grade and were good friends but I had a little crush on her too. I wrote I love you on a valentine card that year and everyone made fun of us lol. It was very awkward and I didn't talk to her tell Senior year again. I always had this feeling for her all throughout my life even with seeing other girls cause I had some feeling we were meant together. We went out for 3 months and we spent most of of the summer just hanging with each other out our houses always talking and watching movies. We got to know each other very well and soon the relationship turned very serious. We never got angry or disagree about anything and it felt like it was the "perfect" couple. I made sure i made her feel like the only girl in the world. We talked about the future and marriage and both knew I was going to go on a mission and be gone for 2 years. Then about a month and a half ago she went off to college and been gone ever since. She isn't going to return tell turkey day. We txt almost everyday since she left. While talking, we both knew the distance was a super killer and we kinda took a step back. But just yesterday, the first thing she told me was that we should go on just being friends now cause 2 years is a long time and thinks we will be completely different. I just told her I understand and that she needs to focus on her future and that she is making important decisions that she needs to focus on. She was happy with that and she ended the txt cause she had to finish studying. I just can't understand how something so amazing like we had together just ended cause of distance and time. I might have told her that stuff cause I wanted her to feel happy, but deep inside, I feel destroyed. I had to let her go cause a quote that we have all heard hit me, "if you truly love someone, you have to learn to let them go." I truly did love her and from the time we spent together, I knew she felt the same way before. I still feel we might have a chance later after my mission, but I just don't know how to deal with this. I am happy in a way as well though cause now I'll be able to focus on my mission now, but first I have to get her out of my head cause I've loved her in a way since elementary school. Any help? Thanks