Hi,
I'm here looking for support, advice, reassurance etc.
My wife and I married (in the temple) 10 years ago. We have young children. We've always been active and held various callings over the years. We've had morning scripture study, Family Home Evenings, gone to the temple all together for family day trips. Any moral dilema was always easily resolved as we just looked to the teachings of the gospel or prayed about it as a couple if there wasn't an obvious answer. We were united in purpose and eternal goals.
4 months ago my wife stopped going to church. I won't go into the reaons here - they aren't relevant. The fact is, she has made her own choices and it's not my intention to pressurise or push her back to church. Instead I've tried to focus on being supportive, loving, compassionate and considerate. It's probably relevant to say she has stopped because she doesn't believe it anymore.
She currently lives most of the main the commandments other than sunday attendance. Not out of any religious desire or belief, but out of respect for me and the children and to avoid hurting us. She may however stop/start doing things over time as she sees fit.
We still love each other deeply. We're still commited to our marriage and our children. We still want a happy life together.
But it still hurts. It still feels lonely being the only parent taking our children to church, trying to help them read the scriptures, teaching the gospel. I worry about the impact on our children and on our marriage in the long term.
Any advice or experience from others in ways of maintaining a positive relationship when one spouse has stopped going to church? How do we reduce the chance of conflict, resentment, frustration on either part.
Please don't tell me what my wife needs to do. I respect her agency and intelligence so am not trying to impose anything on her. She is being loving and respectful towards me - I intend to give her the same. What I'm looking for is advice on how I can behave positively and find perspective and balance.