I have been happily married in the Temple for 3 years. My husband is really one of the kindest guys there is. I love him dearly, but also recognize that I married him for practical reasons. I knew he would be able to provide for me and a future family in addition to being a strong Priesthood leader.
Before we got married, I dated a guy for almost 2 years. I was head over heels in love with him, but sent him off on a mission. He was a good guy, but education was not as important to him as it was for me. I had doubts about his ability to be a leader and provider, despite how much I loved him. When he was gone, I realized that he may not be the best guy for me. I slowly let our contact die and I married while he was gone. We never had real closure. No Dear John letter was sent. We haven't seen or spoken to each other since.
I have no doubt that my husband is the better guy for me, even though I may not have been as crazy in love with him. But lately my ex-boyfriend has just been on my mind and showing up in dreams, as he has from time to time throughout the past few years. He isn't married, and I have strong desire to contact him and let him know that I hope he is happy in life. I have no intention of rekindling anything or reliving the past. I guess I am really just seeking closure. I know that I really broke his heart and I want him to know that I didn't do it because I just didn't care about him. Is this a bad idea?
