"Do you think it is fair that souls who have chosen to be obedient to the commandments of God should inherit all the blessings and rewards promised?
Excuse me, but should the swinger, adulterer be allowed to have all the rights, privileges, and power that accompany one who is clean, pure, and worthy to live in the presence of our Father in Heaven. Do you think that this soul would be qualified via learning discipline and obedience in the father's plan. Is the person qualified to handle the responsibility of righteousness that comes hand in hand with receiving all the gifts that the father has."
It seems to me that you may fall into the camp of "salvation via works" that unfortunately pervades the church and that people "qualify" through correct living during their lives.
as to your question regarding the swinger and adulterers... I refer you to what Christ said to the harlot brought to him and the harlot/hooker who washed His feet. The parable of the laborers is also something to consider.
It's that darn line about "being saved by grace after all we can do". Consider for a moment. Does ANYONE do ALL they can do? Ever? Have you ever looked back on even a week in your life and felt you did ALL you could have done? That you couldn't have done anything better? Perhaps the meaning most often used should really be more like we are saved by grace in spite of everything we can do?
Lastly I'll comment on something else others have mentioned. There seems to be an idea that everyone who didn't choose Satan's plan (i.e. the 2/3 vs. the 1/3) were "better" than those who did. It seems obvious to me simply because of Cain and other Sons of Perdition that this cannot be true. We do not know WHY individuals chose one plan over the other. I imagine that many if not most of the 1/3 didn't choose the plan that Satan presented because they were evil, rebellious souls but rather that they were scared silly of not being able to make it back because of their own weaknesses and found the guarantee of Lucifer to be quite persuasive. On the other hand I think there were spirits who WERE rebellious who are among the 2/3rd's simply because they WANTED to have the ability to choose for themselves and would never want to be FORCED to be good. Think about it, the MOST rebellious spirit children would never choose to be part of Satan's plan. If they did and Satan then won, (maybe he never could have but those that followed him must have thought there was a chance) they would then never be able to use their agency.
Anyway, what I asked the question to see if there was any guidance or clearer doctrine out there but if there is, those kind enough to read my question and respond haven't yet heard of anything specifically.