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Unfortunately, he is so anti any children of his own, that I don't expect to have another one if I remain with him. Yes, i know that stirs everything up a bit cuz I am still young and would love to have another child... but I will deal with that when the time comes. Right now though, I dont want to bring anybody else into this mess. Its IMPOSSIBLE to move out and just date him when we are currently living together and have already been down that road. I would be able to do that, but he wouldnt. And I would not want him to have to be in a relationship like that if that is not what he chooses. So it's really a choice of fully committing to the church or choosing him... Thank you for your advice though.

Hello!! and Welcome! It is so hard not having support around you so I think this will be so good for you. Come here with any questions that you have... Also congrats on your little family and the soon to be new addition! Take care.

Hello Johncyrus! Welcome to the forum! :)

abitlost- Welcome!! I am in the same boat as you. Trying to go back to church!... We will be blessed for it!

I actually asked him just the other day if he would be willing to pray with me, and he said yes. So hopefully when we have some down time, I will be able to pour my heart out to the Lord and have my boyfriend see what I am going through. Thank you Findingmyway.

I think you have a right to know who said these things, unfortunately the bishop does not have to tell you who said anything to him. He keeps everything confidential unless feels he need to involve others. I would hope that as long as you all can agree that nothing is going on, you would have no need to defend yourself and can just go about your everyday life and leave that person out of it. Good luck!

I believe you become excommunicated since you have been through the temple, but that is just an insight as my mother went through this. Each bishop deals with this differently and honestly God is the only one who knows the intent of your heart and if your repentance is sincere. Either way I commend you for going forward and making things right.

My thinking on this is prob. not of the norm, but WHY would I marry someone not of my faith and not be able to fully commit to them? Yes, he is completely worth it We have spoken a lot about marriage and both dont see that as a wise choice for us. I am so all over the place and feel so lost. When I have brought up the fact of leaving him to become fully engaged in the church, he has mentioned he needs to be loved and feel wanted. So that doesnt make me feel very important for him lose. I dont know, does that come across wrong?

Well im not extremely sure but wouldnt a live in nanny/housekeeper be quite a lot of money? I honestly dont know how the church would view that but in my opinion if it helped you with feeling more productive and less stress- and made more family time for you and your kids, i wouldnt see a problem with it. And even though bishops dont always understand the way you are feeling, they are Gods seers, so he would be able to give you direction that in turn is coming from God, not himself. Good luck!

Its a really long story but my children are with my ex husband in Texas. Trust me its not the ideal situation and I honestly am doing everything I can to find my ex a job so he can move back here with them. Why do you ask that?

Thank you so much for your replies. As you could see all my thoughts and fears have been keeping me up so late. I realize you all say I need to decide but I am having such a hard time with both choices. It hurts me so much to see myself letting such a great guy go for the unknown. But it also hurts me to just sit around and keep false hope up for my boyfriend as I'm sure he sees it. We spoke on Saturday night for a few hours and he has told me that if I end up leaving him because of religion, that he doesnt fault me for that and he would allow me to live there until I find a place, etc, etc... but to think of him finding somebody else just kills me! I didnt care when my ex and I split up. It was wonderful... Not once did I look back. But I can tell how much I love him because of how much I care, but its not right to deny him myself now when before none of this mattered, right? findingmyway- I wish it was easy enough to ask him to pray with me, but its not. He told me he talks to God all the time but its not really praying. I used to have him join us for family prayer when I would tuck my kids in at night and he would do it, but you could see he was very uncomfortable. Marriage- I would love to marry this man but in order to do that would mean I would have to give up my eternal companionship for "til death do us part." And as someone else stated- eventually I would let it go but all my feelings would come back and then I would have to go through a divorce rather than just breaking up with someone. Ugh, this is all just too much. Isnt it said that God will only give you things that you can handle?? He must believe me to be a much stronger person than I see myself. rameumptom- Yes, I would love to have never put myself in this position to begin with, but some people you just fall in love with and its hard to deny it. When we first got together, we brought up the religion aspect of things and we both decided that we would eventually cross that bridge if we had to. I had no idea all this would happen so soon and when things are so good between us. It just seems unfair either way you look at it. Thank you for your input though. Family_Man- I am very happy for you and your family that you can have that eternal bond forever. I honestly think if my boyfriends mom wasnt so ANTI our religion it would change his outlook on a lot of things but his mom has told me time and time again, that she expects us to get married in their church. I asked my mom about this and she said, I would have to give up my religion to join theirs. I dont believe in that at all. My boyfriend has said we can get married civially but overall im not sure if thats what I want. As you can see, i really dont know what I want. My family has been telling me for quite some time that the anxiety I feel all the time is a spiritual war going on with my body to help me understand that what I am doing is right and Satan is the one making this very hard on me. I think I know what I need to do, but it just seems so unfair when just a few weeks ago, we were both so happy....

Hello everyone! I'm not even sure where to begin. I am 25 years old and have already been married, divorced and have two children. My story starts about two years ago... after my ex husband and I divorced, I met my current boyfriend. When we first got together I was attending a singles ward. After about two months, things came up and I started making excuses for not wanting to attend church. Several months.later, my boyfriend bought a house and I moved in with him. We have been here for about a year and a half. Over the the last few weeks I have had terrible anxiety/panic attacks. I have been praying a lot lately and keep my parents in the loop with everything and they have been such a great support system. Here's where it gets tough. My boyfriend is wonderful and everything I could ever want except for he is NOT LDS and has no desire to become a member. His family.is Greek Orthodox and I think they have a major influence in how he feels. Since I have been praying a lot lately, I KNOW I need to go back to church and get my life back in order. Problem is my boyfriend is starting to see the effects going back to church is having on me. He doesn't mind that I attend church but its becoming much more intense for both if us than that. Our sex life has become non-existent and its destroying him. I know that's because I know that doing that outside of marriage is wrong. So my question is... do I just continue going back to church and seeing what happens later on down the road or do I end it and start over again but this time not giving into temptation? Let me explain again my bf us WONDERFUL. He puts up with so much and has stuck with me through thick and thin. I'm so confused... and honestly will do anything to rid me of this terrible anxiety. Help please....