dory

Thanks for your suggestions. There isn't going to be a ring ceremony though. We're putting on this wedding by ourselves on a very limited budget and to me this would just add one more big stress to have to figure out.

My son will be getting married in the temple in a couple of months. We have some close family who live out of the country and are planning to make the long trip here to attend the wedding; however, they are not members of our church and I am very worried to have to break the news to them that won't be able to attend the ceremony. How do I explain this to them without causing offense? Sometimes it just doesn't seem right that all loved ones can't attend a wedding ceremony .... I mean, I understand that a recommend is required to enter the temple, but trying to tell someone that they cannot attend the wedding of a loved one almost makes me feel like I'm telling them that they aren't "good enough" . . . Know what I'm sayin'?? When I try to put myself in their shoes I think I think I might be offended if were them.

Just want to say Thanks for replying to my post. You have all helped me during this sad time and I am very appreciative. Thank you ~

My sweet dog who I've had for 14 years got hit by a car and killed today. I know that her Spirit has left her body and she is gone somewhere, but I wish I could know where she really is right now. Does anyone out there know of any good scriptures that might explain about this a little more? Will we get to see our beloved pets again someday?? My heart is so broken. Had no idea how hard this would be.

Can a disfellowshipped musician accompany singers or substitute for another piano player? Can they even make a comment in a sunday school class? my friend told me she can't even have any visiting teachers. To me that seems quite harsh. It seems like those who are disfellowshipped are totally alienated from their ward family. To me it would seem that having visiting teachers come would be something that could help this person. My friend is starting to feel very uncomfortable attending church because she's afraid she might get asked to substitute for a piano player or might get asked to make a comment. I've been trying to encourage her to keep attending but I'm worried that she might be starting to fall away because of these issues.

Thanks everyone. You've given me some good things to think about. I thought by the time I got to be this age I'd have everything all figured out. The body has matured a bit .... but obviously the brain is still a teenager. I think I just might be experiencing a bit of a mid-life crisis. I'm a little embarrassed about my post now. Oh well, I guess all I can say is this: "Thanks. I needed that."

I have a few kids and grandkids. I realize a divorce would cause a lot of hurt with them... and it would be awkward at family get-togethers, etc.. But it already IS awkward now because they can see that we aren't happy. There's something about the way my husband is with me that brings out the worst in me. If we weren't married and I were to meet him and go out with him. . . I would not like him. He is a much different man now than when we first met. People change over the years. He is a good man .... but our personalities just don't mix. I'm aware of those sayings like "Love is a verb", but why should it have to be work to love someone? He wants me to be someone I'm not. He's majorly religious, I'm not. He has no sense of humor, always serious, etc.... I'm just not happy when I'm with him. I know I'm being selfish but I just want to have some happiness in the remaining years I have before I end up in some rest home. Maybe its already too late.

I've been married (temple marriage) for 32+ years and I still do not love my husband. We've had marriage counseling and tried everything. My husband does love me but I just can't give him the love he needs. Too much hurt and damage over the years. He's never been abusive or anything like that. My question is: Is it a sin to get a divorce when there hasn't been any abuse or any other reason other than shear unhappiness?? I just want out. He needs someone who will love him.