Leah
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Satan being the master tempter. yes we have that choice but he is still there daily attempting to tempt as many as he can.
the difference between sexual sin vs every other sin on the planet is the fact sexual sin is so natural and so easy to break without a soul knowing about it. worst of all porn and sexual sins other natures like going around screwing everyone at party isnt seen as bad except in rare cases(LDS church being one of the few that sees this as truely bad).
you are right it is the person that does the crimes fault. but hooker dressed women arent helping. given how common porn addiction is these women arent helping men in anyway who have already fallen get back up. all i am saying is given the commonness of porn addiction and other sexual sins. mixed with other possible mental problems that come with that. mixed with stress. and girls that dress like **** porn stars is all creating a bad horrible mix and likely contributing to rape.
also a fun note. one that is entrenched in sexual sin is basically walking with demons possessing them. so ya know they have at this point given up some of there free will and are fighting desperately to reclaim it.
it boggles my mind you vastly underestimate the wickedness of this world. the vast majority of people in this world are horrible vile people that are hell bent on destroying each other. it is the sad truth.
I don't underestimate the wickedness of the world at all. At the same time, I don't believe that the majority of people in this world are "horrible vile people".
What boggles MY mind is that you are looking to blame everything BUT the person who makes the choice to commit the sin.
You clearly do not understand what rape is about - or perhaps you don't WANT to understand it. You continue to blame the victim, instead of putting the blame where it belongs...with the rapist.
You seem to be unnaturally obsessed with how women dress and with the subject of rape. And seem to be looking for justification for men to rape and behave in other abominable ways.
SO WHAT if Satan temps us daily, as you assert. Everyone has free agency. Everyone CAN resist temptation. It is a matter of choice. We are not helpless before Satan. We are as strong as we want to be.
The facts are that the vast majority of men do not rape, nor are they even remotely tempted to do so. And those that do, do so out of choice. It is a choice they make. They are not helpless before some mystical unseen force. It has nothing whatsoever to do with other people's actions, including how any one woman dresses.
Here's a thought...if you think a woman is dressed like a "hooker", don't look at her!
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well it doesnt always but it can very easily. you know if Satan is knocking at your door nightly not everyone will muster to strength to fight back every night. its just a fact a life.
But Satan didn't force them to do anything. They CHOSE to do it.
YOU are responsible for your actions. Only you.
If I handle cash every day at my job, am I to blame the cash if I steal it, because it was there 'tempting' me every day? Or should I blame my employer for putting temptation in my way? Because - according to your logic - if the temptation is there, it's the temptation's fault how I act, I bear no responsibility.
Fortunately, the truth is that the vast majority of men on this planet are NOT going to rape simply because they are exposed to scantily clad women. It boggles the mind that you would think that to be a normal and expected response.
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And for those of you who are still unsympathetic to those with disabilites (or who don't understand, and would like to), try putting on a pair of ear muffs, or wearing some thick glasses that blur your vision for a few hours and try to go about your daily lives. It is a lot harder and more frustrating than you might think.
We should support those with disabilites and try to do everything we can to help ease their suffering.
I haven't seen anyone here being "unsympathetic" to those with disabilities. Not in the least.
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There's a roast and there's disrespect. One can say some really uncomfortable things as part of a roast and still mean no disrespect. Of course, the person getting roasted gets to decide when it crosses over the disrespectful line. And yes, the person doing the roasting gets to say the person getting roasted is being too serious. Anybody else are just spectators whose opinions don't matter.
Any fool can have an opinion. That doesn't mean they get to decide another person's feelings. That is also disrespect.
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At the end of the day I'd say every religion has taken a ribbing at some point.
Some people just seem to take it more seriously than others I think.
There is a difference between "ribbing" and disrespect. There is nothing wrong in speaking out against disrespect. It is often the person NOT of the religion that is being "ribbed" that declares that those of the religion being disrespected are being "too serious". Not their call to make.
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i have read on a certain anti-mormon site that the LDS church is obsessed with money in many ways, and are very controlling and inquisitive about members private economy? was many examples of it. But it that is not the case then fine.
Just consider for a moment where that information is coming from....a site that is against the Church. Do you honestly think they are going to say positive things about the Church? Do you honestly think they are going to tell the truth?
As for being "inquisitve about members private ecomony", yes, my Bishop is very inquisitive about my "private economy". He knows that I am struggling financially and that I do not make enough to pay my bills each month and that I do not have health insurance. He is so "inquisitive" that he has been putting his head together with my Home Teacher, trying to come up with solutions to the situation, and even offered to pay my rent and provide groceries.
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Affairs often begin because of close work relationships. Friendships turn into romance unexpectedly and people just fall in love. Why? What causes a friendship to turn into "love"?
An associate of mine is happily married, but is also "in love" with a co-worker. They work together...closely and have been friends for a long time, but, now there is something deeper going on. He has not been unfaithful nor has he mentioned his feelings with the co-worker....nor does he intend to. Yet, the feelings are real and he thinks she feels the same. The knowing glances...
He feels guilty for having these feelings....should he? He is happy at home with his wife and has no intention of leaving or acting on his feelings. Yet, there is a danger because these feelings of "love" or super attraction can be overwhelming.
Advice?
One doesn't "just" fall in love. It's a choice.
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Yeah, me too. If you figure it out let me know.
Okay, I will be very diplomatic and just say that I have respect for JP, and I don't believe he deserves the lynching that he his getting. That is just my opinion.
I will never understand having 'respect' for someone who turns his back on children being raped. I don't see how that is behaviour that is to be respected.
That is just my opinion.
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Yeah, but this entire thread is about JP, is it not? Castigate those who witnessed the rape, not the guy who heard about it second hand.
And for the record --- don't twist my words either. It goes both ways. You obviously didn't respect my opinion. Okay, but don't get all pissed off if i don't agree with yours.
So...you've become a moderator and can put limits on posts?
I will "castigate" whomever I choose. Joe Paterno was far more than "the guy who heard about it second hand". Just because you believe it is okay for those who have information about years of ongoing child rape to be complicit in covering it up, doesn't mean we all have to agree with you.
I didn't twist any words of yours. But you do have quite the habit here already of being aggressive with those who disagree with you...or even those who are simply asking for clarification of opinions you post. You seem to take great issue with anyone who doesn't agree with you.
No, I do not respect your opinion in this instance. Joe Paterno does not deserve our respect in this situation. I will not respect anyone who puts his career ahead of the safety of young children. Do you think he will be "respected" on Judgement Day for having turned a blind eye and deaf ear to the ongoing abuse of children? That is my opinion because I believe the safety of children is more important than any sport.
I am not "pissed off" at you. You give yourself too much credit.
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Okay, like I have been told over and over this month, don't make claims of truth that simply are not true. Coach P did not "witness" a raping of a child. So don't say he did. If he had, than there would be no discussion or argument. But that is not what happened. he heard about an incident second hand, and reported what he knew to his supervisor, which is what most of us are trained to do.
Please don't purposely misconstrue what I wrote. I never wrote that Paterno was an actual witness. Don't chastise me for saying something that I did not say. I was not referring to Paterno when I wrote of witnesses. There was at least one witness to a specific incident of a ten-year old being raped, but I never wrote that Paterno was the witness. Don't twist my words to fit your agenda.
But Paterno was still very much in the wrong. I don't know who the "most of us" are that you seem to think are "trained" to turn a blind eye to child rape. I find it horrifying and disgusting that you live in such a world (and seem to be okay with it). Apparently the people in that world are unable to think for themselves or take action without their boss's okay. Anyone who is witness to children being raped or has information regarding it should be picking up the phone and calling the police. Believe it or not, you don't need your supervisor's permission to do the right thing.
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This. I think JP did what most employees would do, and just followed the chain of command.
At my school, we are told to always report to the Principle/Supt. and let them handle it from there.
I have a lot of respect for JP, and I feel for the guy. This has to be just sickening to him, to go down like this, after all the good he has done for the youth at that school.
God bless Joe P.
I don't "feel" for any of those involved in covering this up. And I have no respect for those who just shrug it off by thinking they have done their duty by reporting it to the person above them. The principal and/or Superintendant are not the only mandated reporters in the educational system.
The raping of children was known and known for years. How anyone could think they had done their duty by reporting it to their superior is beyond me. How anyone could witness a 10 year old being raped and not immediately intervening to save the child and also picking up the phone is beyond comprehension.
What "good" has been done by turning a blind eye to the rape of children? Football is more important? Having a winning team trumps raping children?
No one involved in the crimes OR the cover-up deserves anyone's respect.
Edited to add: I wonder how those who support/excuse the cover-up would feel if it were their child being raped? As long as someone reported it to their boss, everything would be cool, then? It would be okay that no one actually did anything?
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I don't understand why some people are taking such strong offense at the opinion that 'most' people can safely fast. There is plenty of evidence to back up that opinion, but people are still free to disagree. If someone is taking that opinion to the extreme of saying they are made to feel guilty...well, no one else can "make" you have feelings. The only person responsible for your feelings is you, so it might be useful to think about WHY someone else's opinion is "making" you feel a certain way.
As fasting is not something we're supposed to be boasting about (the reasons for this should be obvious), some might be suprised by exactly who does fast. We shouldn't automatically assume that because someone has x or y health issue, they don't fast. And don't confuse the effects of fasting for two meals with the effects of fasting for an extended time. Most admonitions/studies against fasting are meant for the latter.
And before anyone says "you don't know what it's like", I do have serious medical issues. Medical issues do not automatically preclude fasting. I think some people equate feeling hungry or a little crappy for a few hours with "harm".
Fasting is between the indivicual and Heavenly Father. If you "can't" or don't want to fast, work it out with Heavenly Father. His is the only opinion that counts. I don't understand the need for approval from others or why some people feel it necessary to proclaim their fasting status. On Fast Sunday, I have no idea which of my brothers and sisters are fasting, and which had a bite to eat before coming to Sacrament Meeting. That's Heavenly Father's business, not mine.
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When I drank the fruit juice, it was my fault that I didn't check the label to MAKE SURE that it didn't have tea. I really didn't ever suspect that they would put tea in fruit juice, but that was me being nieve.
I double checked the menu after they brought the ice cream to make sure that it said nothing about coffee topping. I actually think whoever made the ice cream make a mistake, because the toppings were very carefully listed.
I never specifically ask wait staff at restaurants if they contain any ingredients that are forbidden by the WOW unless I suspect that there could be. Do you guys ask everytime, just in case?
Maybe I should be? Hummmm
I think that it makes a big deal out of something that is kind of private, what do you guys think?
Why should following WoW be 'private' and how is doing one's best to abide by WoW making a "big deal"? That doesn't make any sense. Discussions about garments and what goes on in the Temple should be private, but the WoW is not a 'private' thing. Plenty of people know that LDS don't drink tea or coffee or partake in alcohol. It's not a secret, nor should it be. It can often be an opportunity to open up a discussion and share the Gospel. I have no qualms about sharing the fact that I don't consume certain things is because I am LDS.
If there is something in particular that I don't eat - whether it be for religious, medical, or other reasons - I am certainly going to perform due diligence BEFORE consumption. It's not a "big deal" and nothing to be secretive about.
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Well there is the foyer/waiting room area that those without temple recommends are welcome to enter, but I'd probably not consider that a good time. Switching in for around would make sense too, but I have not clue if such a mix-up is at play.
Dang it, now you've got me wondering. :-/
I've spent many an hour in the foyer, the atrium, and on the Temple grounds at the Portland Temple. I'd say every minute qualified as a "good time". That is, if you consider spending time in prayer and contemplation and drawing closer to Heavenly Father a "good time".
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I am confused by the OP and this thread.
I have always been taught that we don't discuss what happens in the Temple outside of the Temple. Yet sharing details about the endowment is okay on a public forum?
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I have another question for you, if I may...
While my wife was in the hospital and the hospice, I recorded many videos (on my phone) of her talking and interacting with her environment as well as our children.
The videos are not necessarily characteristic of the person she was. Her mental state was greatly altered by her condition, and some of what she said and the way she acted were far from her normal personality.
Having said that, I am finding it difficult now to delete them from my phone.
Should I delete them? I do not have any other video of her, and part of me feels (as irrational as it may sound) that deleting the videos would be to delete part of her...part of her memory. I'm sure that sounds silly. Even though they are not indicitive of the woman that I married, they are all that I have of her (video wise).
Should I save them to share with our children some day? Is it better to delete them and remember her the way that she was when she was healthy?
Sometimes I watch them, even though it makes me sad to do so, because I miss her voice.
If I were you, I would keep the videos. I really wish I had video of my husband, even if they were of him after he was sick.
I totally understand that it feels like it would be deleting part of her. It doesn't sound silly, it makes total sense to me to feel like that.
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Hello All,
Perhaps few of you on here remember be. I have been gone for some time now from the message boards. Those of you who do remember me understand why.
This past August, my beautiful wife of nearly 11 years passed away and went to live with the Lord.
Even though I knew it was coming eventually, it does not make it any easier to accept.
My world is completely different. Our children are now without a mother.
I was thinking about something the other day...
People die every day around the world. Some die peacefully after a lifetime of years, accomplisments, and memories. Some die suddenly and tragically. Death does not play favorites. It takes the old as well as the young. The seemingly innocent as well as the wicked.
People cope with the loss of those they love in the best way they are able.
No matter how many times people experience the death of someone close to them, however, I do not believe that it ever becomes easier. Certainly God notices everything, and He weeps at the death of His children as He rejoices at their returning to His presence.
I would like to hear from those of you who have lost someone close to you. How do you get through it? When does the ache go away? How do you know when it is time to move on?
It is strange how fast memories seem to fade when you have spent so many years with someone. I don't ever want to forget, but I want to remember in a healthy way.
Your advice and thoughts will be greatly apprciated.
God Bless
My husband died a little over two years ago. We also knew it was coming, but I don't know that anyone is ever prepared for this.
How do you get through it? With the help of Heavenly Father. I didn't think I could keep going after my husband died, but you either keep going or you lay down and die. But you won't do that...you can't do that...you have children who need you.
I think the ache will always be there. But it will lessen in intensity and the time will come when you notice it less and less. It doesn't seem possible now and I can't really explain it...but the ache will always be there, but you won't be aware of it every second like you are in the beginning.
I think when the time comes to move on, you will just know. When my husband died, I didn't want to move on. I didn't want to go forward without him. I still hate the fact that I have to. But...again...you either move forward or lay down and die. One day you will simply realize you have already moved forward, and you'll probably wonder how that happened.
I am so sorry for your loss.
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Hello all! My name is Johnathan and I'm looking for answers on Mormonism. I'm Jewish born and I currently attend a Reform synagogue with my girlfriend Edith who is also Jewish. I am curious as to what is Mormonism and what Mormons believe. Thank you for your time!
Welcome!
I converted from Judaism (Orthodox) and was baptized last month. I think you will find that it is just as Skippy said....there are many ties to Judaism within the LDS church. I was quite surprised by this. Just keep an open mind and heart and try to put aside any preconceived notions. Chances are they are wrong!
The members here can answer any question you might have.
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For many Catholics, rosaries serve a double purpose...religious fashion accessory and prayer beads. In our jail, even many Protestants wear the donated rosaries we have, much as I suppose LDS wear CTR rings.
Where does your perception of "many" come from? I worked for ten years at a Catholic institution, worked at one time for a parish and formerly had Catholic in-laws....I never heard of rosary beads being worn as a "fashion accessory" by any actual Catholic. I was also taught the same as Dahlia, it's not to be worn, it is to be used for prayer. Every Catholic I've known and worked with would consider it extremely disrespectful to use a rosary as a "fashion accessory".
If you mean as a cincture, that is one thing. But that is not a "fashion accessory".
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Just a thought, I apologize for causing emotional distress among you. You may want to consider why your responses were defensive. You can't reason with the unreasonable. Good night
Perhaps you might want to consider why you felt it necessary to harass and judge two strangers on the street and then come here to also judge.
And I seriously doubt that you caused any 'emotional distress' here, and I didn't see a single defensive response.
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I teach a Walking for Fitness class at the high school level. Before our first off-campus walk, I instructed my students to observe all traffic law, ie. use crosswalks and no jaywalking. Not two minutes after I gave these instructions, my entire class witnessed two Mormon missionaries jaywalk. I wanted to approach them but they were going in the opposite direction. God presented me an opportunity one hour later as they reappeared and were walking in my direction. I told them they were not a good testimony to their Church as my students witnessed them jaywalking. I then stated that I thought obedience was necessary to be considered worthy enough to be saved. 2 Nephi 25:23 "that it is by graced we are saved, after all we can do." I asked them if they thought using a crosswalk would be included in the concept of "all we can do". Seems to me it would as compared to what Christ did for us, endure an agonizing death on the cross. They were speechless and made no comment. Any thoughts?
I am speechless at your judgementalism. And at what lengths (and lows) you went in order to find a 'reason' to attack missionaries/the LDS Church.
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To the Single Adult Sisters of the Church - general-conference
A quote from this page: The Lord Knows and Loves You
"I also recognize that not all women in the Church will have an opportunity for marriage and motherhood in mortality. But if those of you in this situation are worthy and endure faithfully, you can be assured of all blessings from a kind and loving Heavenly Father—and I emphasize all blessings.
I assure you that if you have to wait even until the next life to be blessed with a choice companion, God will surely compensate you. Time is numbered only to man. God has your eternal perspective in mind."
This gives me comfort in my personal situation. I have seen promises in several different talks that the blessing of marriage will not be denied us if we leave this life unmarried. I have faith that if I keep my covenants, and even if my boyfriend and I are not sealed together (what if I die first?!?) now, that it will all work out according to God's plan.
Walking in faith, and having a good time doing it!
But how can YOU leave this life unmarried, when you've repeatedly claimed that your live-in boyfriend- you know, the one who has no interest in getting married - is actually your common-law husband? How can you be unmarried and receive a Temple recommend when cohabitating?
And here again you call him your boyfriend while insisting you are "married" in order to qualify for a Temple recommend.
I understand that you want to work in the Temple, but fudging the truth is not the way to get there. You do everyone a disservice, including yourself. You've made repeated claims that you are "married", but no common law marriage is a legal marriage without taking the proper legal steps, which you have not done. And even then, you would be only legally married from that time onward. So if you haven't done the legal steps to have your common law marriage legally recognized, they you simply aren't married no matter how much you might think so in your head. And if you are married, as you insist, why are you taking comfort for your "personal situation" regarding something that is being addressed to the unmarried?
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I have not seen anyone being hostile. Not even close. I have seen them be concerned so as to HELP YOU in your wish to do Temple work.
I have seen people trying to clarify, trying to help you (which you clearly do not see), trying to understand the situation as it does not square with anyone's experience. I am trying to understand how an unmarried woman living with her boyfriend (as you routinely refer to him) qualifies for a temple recommend. I have found no one other than you who says this is possible without a legally recognized marriage (and here is why). You have provided no information as to how that is possible (all of these bishops you have spoken with must have it explained it to you) other than to pretty much say that as long as YOU consider yourself "married", that's all that matters.
I am out of this thread. You hear what you want to hear and see what you want to see and don't consider other people's knowledge or experience, other than to view people who disagree or ask for clarification as somehow attacking you. There is no discussion to be had here.
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As to why we haven't gotten married yet.... you would have to ask him personally why. I don't understand it myself. He is a lot older than me, and was married once before. The first marriage did not go well at all. He simply says he doesn't want to 'be' married. I started looking into the legalities of common law marriage when I started worrying if we could be sealed or not if something happened to him (he is older than me, and he works in a dangerous profession). I didn't look into it to try and get anything out of it. I never even brought that up during the temple recommend discussion. This is kind of a non issue to me. I have been given permission to get sealed to him and that's all I wanted. I just brought the point up because I do call him my husband a lot, and if I did that in a post, I didn't want someone to go "Huh?".
To confuse the situation a little more... He is fine with me telling people we are married. He doesn't correct people who call him my husband. He is fine with me wearing a wedding ring, and he would be okay with me changing my last name to his. Men!!! I just don't understand them sometimes! Can any guy relate to the "I don't want to be married" concept? It confuses the heck out of me.
I still do not understand how/why the Church considers you married when you are not married by any legal definition (despite what you think or what you read on Wikipedia, you do not have a legal marriage, not even a legally recognized common law one) and when one party has no desire to be married. I've not heard of sealing being allowed to someone to whom you were not legally married to in the mortal life.
And, no, Dravin is not judgmental as you implied elsewhere. When I had my interview for my Temple recommend, after the interview, the Bishop asked me why it was important to be worthy for the recommend. He explained that it is not just for those for whom you perform ordinances, he explained how it is also important for the person performing the ordinances. For without being worthy for the recommend, they will also not receive the full blessings of the work they are doing. Your own welfare is also under consideration here.
If you are living with someone and there is any doubt (which there seems to plenty) of whether you are legally married, wouldn't you want to clear that up so as to protect/benefit yourself, as well as others?
Infant Ear Piercing
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Getting one's ears pierced hurts. Why anyone would want to inflict pain on an infant (or child) for some unnecessary bit of 'fashion' that is to satisfy the desire of the parent is beyond me. This is a human being - your child - not a dress-up doll.
I will always vote for waiting and letting her make her own decision.