mrlb

About which part?!!

Sounds like a dream! Hopefully we can get there someday.

MrShorty - you hit the nail on the head for sure. She and I disagree on what's modest; doesn't make me right and her wrong. And I don't and shouldn't have control over her. I just find myself in the situation where she's attracting attention that makes me uncomfortable and I don't like being uncomfortable! I feel like I just wish my wife didn't want to attract that type of attention.

She definitely wears garments. Not sure if it's just her choice of type/size but her garments are pretty low in the front. She could show off a lot and still not show garments.

5 years ago a friend of hers (not LDS or modest!) took a job at a clothing store and started getting her good deals on a new wardrobe! Yes married in the temple.

Suzie - I really don't worry about what she'll do, I just don't like the type of attention she's attracting. I guess when I'm not around at least I don't see it so it isn't as hard for me.

We've been married 20 years. She didn't start dressing like this until about 5 years ago. Unlikely I would have been attracted to her had she dressed that way when we met and dated.

I have a little problem I'd like some input on. My wife and I disagree on what clothing is modest. She likes to wear clothing that's a little tight fitting and revealing in form and cleavage. Same with swimwear. She wears a one piece but it's low cut and revealing in the front. It makes me uncomfortable to be with her if she's wearing this type of clothing/swimwear. I've talked to her about this but those discussions go badly because we disagree on what's modest. So after years of this I feel like I've given up on resolving it. If we're going somewhere and she puts on clothes that make me uncomfortable I usually just clam up and avoid her if possible. For example if she suggests going swimming I will look for excuses not to be able to go but if I can't get out of it I'll just figure out ways to stay away from her at the pool. She notices and says something but she just thinks I need to get over it. I don't care what she does or how she dresses when I'm not around. It only bothers me when I'm with her and I see other guys checking her out.