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I have had a friend for a long time and she told me last night that when she was young she had 6 abotions. She was not active in the church and actually had no contact with the church. This all happened 20 years ago. Her question is, does she need to go to the her bishop and confess since it was so long ago. Thanks.

Well, I made a mistake. I love the woman that I did it with and we are going to get married sooner than we had planned. We both want to get sealed as soon as we can but we know that it will take a while now. I feel really good about what I am doing now. I know that I will feel better once I get this all out in the open. My relationship with my girlfriend will only get better. It is really good now but we don't want any secrets. Thanks for all y'alls support and advice.

I met with the Bishop last Sunday. Things went well in that it wasn't as hard to confess as I thought that it would be. He contacted the Stake President and I will be meeting with him this coming Sunday. I am just going to get this taken care of. I don't care what the sentence is, I just want to get this over.

Eowyn, I am so glad that you know what I have learned and have not learned. Thank you for setting me straight on that. I don't know what I would do without these kind of comment from someone who has never met me nor knows what is going on in my life. I am so relieved to know that all I have is a "shiny new girl". Thanks for belittling my feelings and letting me know that what I am feeling is nothing more that indigestion. I'm so glad that you know exactly what went on in my marriage and that I didn't try to keep it going for 21 years. Thank you for explaining to me what "real love" is. I guess that I am just too stupid to know these things for myself. You did such a good job with your post. Thanks.

I'm not going to tell my kids but they are not stupid. They will figure it out sooner or later. I have an appointment with my bishop this sunday so I will confess at that time.

I agree but it takes a year to get rebaptised and my middle son will be ready to be ordained to be an Elder before I get the priesthood back. It will come out sooner or later. I want to do what is right but I don't want to disappoint my kids.

I have gone through a divorce and lost my kids at the same time. My oldest son would not even talk to me and my ex took my kids and moved to Utah. I have not seen them since. I have gone to the temple on a weekly basis and have grown leaps and bounds both spiritually and emotionally. I have since met a woman with whom I have finally learned what real love is. We met online and talked for well over a year. Last weekend we met for the first time and it was incredible. We completely clicked and after the first evening we both agreed that we wanted to get married. We are planning on getting married next month. On the last night there we broke the law of chastity. We didn't plan it but it just happened. We both took 3 days off just to think about what happened and we both feel that our bond is stronger. Also, we both have decided to go to our respective bishops and confess what has happened. I am positive that I will be excommunicated because I am a high priest. I am scared because I have just recently been able to regain my relationships with my kids. They are all talking to me again and I don't want to lose this. I am going to confess but how do I break the news to my kids. Thanks.

Yes, I have come to realize that I really can and do loveher vet much. Infact we are more engaged. Thanks for all your help.

I disagree with that statement. If you have never been love before how do you know? Your statement says that there is noway I am in love with my girlfriend. As I have read the previous posts I have come to realize that I am in love with my girlfriend. I care about her. I think about her constantly. I do things for her without being asked to do them. I can't wait to talk to her when we are apart. She will text me at 3am and it doesn't bother me even though I have to get up in about an hour. There is very little that she can do to make me mad. So as you can see just because I had to ask doesn't mean I do not love her. I do love her. Maybe not as much as I would like but that will change over time. Thanks for your response though.

Thank you. That makes a lot of sense in that there is not one definition of "love". She has told me some things about her past that would and has made many men run away but I feel that if the lord has forgiven her then I have no right to hold them against her. Those things happened before I ever knew her. We have been very honest with each other and I feel that you have to be honest if you are going to have a good marriage. After the responses I think that I am in love with her and that my love for her will grow as we spend more and more time together. Thanks for y'alls help.

Thanks MormonMusic for your reply. I like the link that you provided. I have gone through my previous marriage and with an open mind analyzed my actions and contributions or lack thereof. I was far from perfect and I didn't want to participate in the marriage for many years. I didn't want to save the marriage. However, I know that was wrong but it is what it is. My girlfriend and I have discussed my actions in depth and she has seen so much improvement since the first time we met. I have not changed for her but for me. I have read a ton of books and articles on the internet that have helped me evaluate myself and make changes. I think the thing that has helped me the most is that I started going to the temple on a weekly basis. This has allowed me to calmly look inside what I have been and what I can become. I will use this website that you presented and take what I can from it. My problem is that I just don't understand if I love her. I think I do but I don't think I have ever been in love before and am not sure I would recognize the feeling. I just don't want to marry her and then lose interest in her because I am not in love with her. I think the fact that we are still together after a year is a good sign. Also, she and I have talked about and done things that I never wanted to do with my wife. I hated talking to my wife but I love talking with my girlfriend. Anyway, thanks for your post.

I was in a loveless marriage for 21 years. I don't know if I have ever been in love with any woman I have been involved with. I not sure that I know what love is. I have been with my girlfriend for a year and we have talked seriously about getting married. How do I know that I am in love with her? I don't want to make the same mistake that I made the first time. I get along with this lady better than I did with my wife. I think about her all the time. Most of my goals involve her. We really click and I can't think of my future without her but I know that if we broke up I would find someone else...it may take some time but it would happen. So, how do I know that I am in love with this great woman? Thanks.

In my humble opinion I think the young man is responsible for his inactivity. I went through a divorce and my ex spread all kinds of rumors about me. I was avoided by some people but I kept going to church because I wanted to. The young lady telling him that she was told to stay away from him is a different issue. Again in my humble opinion I would think that the person who told her to stay away was looking out for her best interests and may not have said it out of meanness. All I can say is that I am soooo glad that I am not the one who has to judge anyone...including these people. )

I went to the temple yesterday and was wondering if Adam and Eve loved each other before the fall. Did they even know what romantic love was? In the movie they are depicted to be in different parts of the garden. They were so innocent that I am not sure that they did love each other. I know, bizarre question.

This is a question that I have had. I can't imagine that I would be required to be with my ex wife unless I am sentenced to HELL. How could a loving Heavenly Father put two people together that do not love each other. My girlfriend tells me that I will have a chance to choose if all of us make it to the celestial kingdom. I guess I will just have to wait and see.

Yes, I can relate. After my divorce I didn't want to go to church. I went just so that my kids could see me go. I have to do some real soul searching. It took over a year but I have come to realize that I am better off with the gospel and going to church than I am without. I am taking the time to really learn what is in the scriptures. I take notes as I read so that I can understand better. I don't just read them like I used to read a text book in college...you know where you can read several pages and not have a clue what you just read? This may not be for you but I have gotten to where I don't like to miss church. I go to the temple every week on a day when there won't be many people there. That way I can sit and ponder or just relax and get away from the daily life. I spend the whole day there so I can do whatever I want. I can just sit in the celestial room, do sealings, do endowments, talk to workers, anything. It is up to me to decide. Believe me it was extremely hard to stay active after my divorce. My bishop suggested that I not have a calling and stop home teaching so that I could focus on me. I did this and it has been great. I am ready for a calling and to start home teaching again. I have become very involved in service. My attitude and outlook towards the church have really changed. Hope this helps.

Does anyone know where to find LDS movies online? I get bored sometimes and would like to find something worth watching. I have looked on youtube.com and found a couple but not many. Thanks.

Yeah, I heard that it was James or John. Not big parts so it would not be hard to take him out.

I have googled LDS temple movie and get a lot about the 1969 version but nothing about the current ones which really doesn't surprise me. I was just curious about the actors like if Adam and Eve were married in real life or not. Just curious.

I was in the temple today and was wondering when were the two current temple movies released? Who are the actors? What are they doing today? Just curious...I really don't like Satan in the movie with the brunette Eve. He is too dramatic.

I am a divorced man who thought that my first wife was my soul mate. We were married for 21 years. However, I have met a woman and our personalities match almost completely. I don't think that it could ever possibly get any better. Do I think we are soul mates? No. We are very compatible and if we get married I believe that we will be very, very happy. However, no matter how compatible we are a great marriage takes a lot of work. I have learned this from my first marriage. The minute you stop working at keeping the flame burning is when you are in trouble.

Again, it is just my opinion but caffeine is addictive to most people. The word of wisdom keeps us from losing control of our bodies. That is my take on it. I personally don't drink caffeine unless I really need it so that when I do take it into my body it WORKS. sometimes too well. LOL

I too have been going through a long distance relationship. I have experienced much of what you described. At one point early in our relationship I was told to just relax and that she was not seeing anyone nor was she talking to anyone else. I had to take her at her word. I gave it time because I needed it and as it turned out so did she. Now we have the most amazing relationship because we were able to work out some of our personal issues that hadn't come up until we had found each other. My advise to you is relax. Go on your mission and forget about her until you get back. Put it in the Lords hands but focus on doing his work. It will all work out for the best. I promise.

In my opinion too many LDS members are simply looking for an excuse to get a caffeine fix. If you think about the issue then you will realize that the Lord was trying to keep people from having caffeine in their diet. My opinion is if you want to drink it then drink it. If you don't then don't. You will find the answer you want to see (whichever way you lean) here on this site.

Just because you were given a prompting does not mean that you have to follow it. You still have your free agency. Also, maybe the prompting came from within because you were not doing well in school. It seemed so perfect because you would be getting away from your troubles. Just a thought but you would know more than me if the promptings were from the Lord or you. I have a special needs daughter and I can't tell you how much I appreciate her teachers. They are all special people.