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Thanks Judo! You sound exactly like she does in this post

Actually the BSA "requirement" states that you ..."must believe in a higher power". It doesn't require the "holy bible" or any other book. It's absolutely up to the boy and their family how they meet the requirement and is the one thing that the scout master does not sign off on. The boys religious leader or parents sign the requirement when it is completed. If you have issues with the souct master and the program, I suggest talking with the troop/pack leadership. If you can't make progress with them or come to some resolution, go to either the council, or direct to BSA HQ with an email. I'm quite sure the troop will come around to a workable solution. I'm curious though, the religious emblem is not a required "badge", it is optional. The only requirement that I know of is a small faith requirement Webelos. YiS, Paul Eagle.

Thanks everyone for the counsel. -Paul

This is EXACTLY where I am at! She has her whole life ahead of her. For me, and she has already told me she feels the same way, it seems like the most right thing we have ever felt in our lives. But when you think aobut it, how can it be right? Chances are we will never have children together. What are we doing this for, a few weeks of bliss?

Oh that sounded bad, I didn't mean that Bini was sucky, just some of the decisions and choices we are forced to make to learn from seem challenging.

It sure seems like a sucky plan from my point of view and I mean that in a respectful but nieve and indeering way!

I'm just having a hard time coming to grips with leaving her behind alone for so long. Why should she have to live her life in torment like that.

Thank you for the advice Judo, I think you replied to my previous post on this topic, Just to be very clear, when I say passionately, I don't mean anything beyond such overwhelmingly strong feelings of the most pure sort of love and kindness between us. In fact, we have never kissed. I have never thought or ever been taught that feelings like this would be considered wrong or would even remotely be considered living in sin. How in the world could this be cosidered living in sin any more than a couple who are engaged are? And more in her defence than in mine, neither one of us has broken the Law of Chastity as of yet. P

Hello everyone. I posted in another thread about dating and impending death due to a terminal illness and received some pretty good advice. If a man had some type of terminal illness, but met someone very special, someone he cared deeply for, and she has similar feelings, is it right to get married? What about temple marriage? Is there a way to get a "quick" temple marriage if both already are endowed? Is it right to even try to do something like that if he only has a few months before returning to the Heavenly Father? What happens if we both passionately love one another but are not married? is it fair for her to be left a widow and to have to potentially have to chose to get unsealed? Are we doomed to be tormented for eternity? I thought this was a really nice short article and very on point: Young Widows in the Church: Are they disadvantaged? | Thanks for any help in this. Paul

We can tell you are the romantic one. Send roses and a flirt then if you can't write, the florist will help you.

I say again, why not just send a love letter or poem? It's probably better than any sexting anyway.

Oh, I didn't know, but you get the idea anyway

So trade someones innocence for a few weeks or months of being married, only to leave them heartbroken and alone, maybe even expecting? That seems a bit cruel even if they are ok with it.

Many posters mentioned "talking dirty" but that wasn't what was stated even if it is the common convention for sexting. What is wrong with writing good old fashoned love letters to your spouse? Look as some of the love letters in the historical archives written between husband and wife separated for work reasons. Read them closely and you can feel them seething with passion, yet they are very tame in verbage. P

Interesting and varied responses so far. Not arguing with Judo, but isn't that contradictry to "date" but not in a real effort to plan for the future? It sounds like dating for ncmo purposes. What if you "date" someone and it becomes something really special, then you have already started to cause that person emotional harm and then have to own up to the issue.

Hi everyone, This is basically an academic or theologic question, but I was wondering what people would do. Suppose you knew you had about a year to live due to some illness, say cancer of some sort. You're young, single, never been married, live as rightious as you can, all the normal mid 20's sorta things. Would you date? Would you seriously date someone at the risk of hurting that person because you know your future? Or would you persue other interests, take on a deep study of the scriptures or just be with your family? just curious. P