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When she prays at night, she prays to make the "right decision". I just feel hurt when she prays for that. In my opinion the decision was made when we got married. In my eyes, the "right decision" should be work like you never worked before to save your marriage. I guess she is waiting for Moroni to show her what the right decision will be. But I am having that my wife has faith to read the BOM and she says she is praying to love me again. I just hope this ends soon so that we can get our life back in order.

I am working my tail off so that I can save my marriage. I been fasting every week and praying every day. The GOOD NEW is that we pray as a couple everyday morning and night and we fast as a couple every Sunday. We are reading the BOM together and we do FHE every Monday. We are a great couple, is just that my wife does not love me and is afraid that she will never love me. We are seeing therapy so that she can know what she wants in life. That is the thing, she does not know if she wants to be or not. This is the worst part of all of this.

Right now I want to salvage my marriage, and my wife does not really know if she wants to salvage the marriage. She lost the focus of what a temple marriage means. She is completely blinded of the eternal prospective. She no longer believes in temple marriage and she does not know what she wants. I just want to see how long this will go for before she makes a decision.

Ok, so if my wife wants to get a temple cancellation, would the church give it on the basis of personality differences?

Would the church give a temple divorce because of one spouse no longer wants to be married because of personality difference? We have 2 kids and we had 7 years of bad marriage. We both repented and we want to turn our life's to the lord. But my spouse is thinking about getting divorced because we do not have "anything" in common. She mentioned to me that she does not know if she wants to be "happy with me for all eternity." Would the church give a temple divorce just based on this? Would my wife be able to remarry in the temple? How long is the process?

Good news, my wife is going to talk with the stake president hopefully this weekend. She finally understand that without fixing this she will never be happy with no one.

This is true. I never really thought it of this way. I was inactive and did not attend the temple because I knew I was not living a faithful life.

I was not aware of this transgression until last night. First I plan to fix my self, and hopefully fix my marriage or get it solid grounds, then talk with the bishop.

I just wish I could hate her and leave her. This would make all my problems go away. For some reason I am unable to hate her.

My kids are 3 and 1. She had an affair 4 years ago. She no longer is having an affair. She is talking with her ex boyfriend from when they dated when she was 17. The problem is when something starts wrong it ends wrong. We should never gotten married. This is what I am trying to say.

Thank you very much. She has been asking for some space. She never left the church and will never leave the church. She has a strong testimony of the gospel and it is just that she knows what she needs to do to repent. She does not want to do it now. She knows sooner or later that she will need to go through the process. The problem is that one of her mom friends, had committed adultery and is still married in the church and is very active in the church. This person is married to a worthy priesthood holder and is high in the local stake where we live. She figures that if this person can do it, and maybe she will be able to do it also. I do not have to right to point scriptures and burn her at the stake. All I can is receive her with open arms when she is ready.

She never said she wants a divorce. She is imply that she wants her space and wants time to think. Basically she is tired of being alone all these years and waking up early to go to church by herself. She wants to see if I really am able to change.

When I asked her if she wants to save this marriage she said that she does not know. She does not want to save it because she is not happy. In her mind, I am a symbol of unhappiness. The thing is that I never really gave this marriage a chance, and now when basically all is lost, I am trying everything I can to change so that I can be happy with my kids.

I already asked her for forgiveness, and she did accept it. I am trying to change my habits and I spoke with the bishop and I am on temporarily probation. I know that I can not demand she talk with the bishop and I have not done so. I said that one day, you will need to face the consequences of her actions. But I know that when I start to show her that I change, then I am sure that she will bring her wall down. So should I just leave as it, or do I do something else?

well that is the thing. She does not really want to save this marriage. She is so depressed and death inside she is only seeing today. She is fighting against being humble and fighting against everything. I have to be strong for the time being for my kids. When I prove that I am back active in church, I am sure that I will be able to convince her to talk with the bishop. She has to many walls right now and she is completely blind. Until recently, she was the better spouse, and I wanted to get a divorce. I am the one that never told her I loved her or showed any affection. I know that I am the one that pushed her away, but I told her that it is NOT my fault that forced her to have an affair. She is so numb to the things of God that she is unable to have any feelings of remorse.

The worst thing is that 2 months ago she been "talking" with her ex. She was saying how much she wants to be with him and all. I asked her to delete him from the facebook. She deleted him and now after she told me she had the affair, she added him to facebook.

I been married for 6 years, and these past 6 years have been more on the bad side than on the good side. I am under 30 and so is my spouse. Our second child was just born a little over 1 year ago and my marriage is on the brink of failure. My spouse is completely dead inside and she has been hold a dark secret from for 3 years, and she finally told me last night. Last night she told me that she committed adultery 3 years ago. She had relations with another man a few times and never repented this. We went to the temple many times after the incident but she has been hiding this all along. She feels no real remorse for what she done and she does not want to talk with the appropriate priesthood authorities. She feels that as long as she continues to do good in this life, that she will not get punished, or if she does it will not be so bad. I in the other hand knows this is not true. What should I do? She refuses to talk with the bishop and the stake president but has been going to church and the temple regularly. I am completely lost. Her parents have a high calling in the church and she does not want to ruin her family name because of gossip? Should I approach my bishop if thought I promised I would not and this will lead to the final bullet of my marriage? Just I just ask to get divorced? I love my wife dearly, and I know that I have not been the greatest husband and I was unfaithful to her before we got married. But since I got married I never cheated on her with someone else? I have no one to talk to because my family will all want me to break up. If I ask for a divorce then she will get excommunicated then her parents will basically disown her, because when she had sex before marriage, her mom did not talk with her for a long time. And now for this to happen, after everything her mom done for her, and for her to ruin her marriage and her kids, the children are going to suffer more than anything. Please help.............