I AM trying to say he masturbated, without having to SAY he masturbated. I think it comes from being distraught...or deranged...or in denial...hard to say. The whole thing is a mess. I want to be supportive...without be co-something (dependant, addict, etc). still trying to decide how to get through this, with the marriage intact, our testimonies intact, and my sanity intact. Suggestions?