gingerjess

i think the question is very easily answered. what values do you want your children to grow up embracing. truth is essential in all things good. didn't jesus proclaim "i am the way, the TRUTH and the light". i am not sure where you stand on christianity in general, but if you are to follow the most basic lesson taught by christ then truth should trump all else. just pray that your family, if truely convicted in the teachings of the church, choose to follow the other values they are taught, forgiveness and charity! best of luck mate :)

thank you so much for your responses. the dr said that he was having auditory hullucinations and delusions. he was very sick. yes he did all of the above before treatment. this is why i am finding it so hard to beable to hold it against him.

Ok so I married a man from the church. I converted to The CJCLDS and was baptised the day after we were married. I had 3 kids to a previous abusive relationship. My husband and I split while i was pregnant with our first child together. then we got back together. we have been reconciled for 5 years now. the unfortunatte thing is that in this time my husband has been suffering with undiagnosed schitzophrenia. he had full blown delusions and auditory hullucinations. he thought i was cheating on him and was always accussing me of this. he became domestically violent as he believed the thoughts he was having about me being unfaithful. recently he hit me, hit me hard. i ended up with a broken cheek bone and blow out fracture. he explained that he thought he was going crazy and sought help. he has been put on medication (anti-psychotics) and he sincerley is a changed man. his aggression is gone, he is no longer paranoid and i feel as though i have the man i married back. i was just starting to enjoy my marriage and feel right in my desicion to stand by him when i had this dream. i dreamt he was unfaithful. i asked him straight out and to my utter astonishment he admitted that HE had been unfaithful about 4 weeks ago, right after our anniversary. he had hired a prostitute and told me he had to work late. there is no way i would ever have known about this had he not told me. he said that now the meds are working he is ashamed of who he was and did not want to rebuild our marriage on a lie. I was winded when i found out. i literally could not breathe. I had NEVER Suspected him of doing anything like this. that is why the dream was so weird. now he says he is sorry and wants to make things work. i heard him this morning and he was holding me thinking i was asleep and he was praying out loud.he asked heavenly father to bless me and take away the pain he had caused me and that i would stay his eternal companion and find it through the atonement the ability to forgive him. i really want to . i love him. i feel he is meant to be my eternal companion, but i am scared i am being manipulated. i said in sickness and health and i truely think he was sick when he committed all these sins. we have not been active in the church and i am hoping that it is with the church we will build our relationship with one another and god. please help me with any advice you may have. my family think i have lost all self respect wanting to continue with the marriage :sad: