NessaBee

Yeah, but now that I think about it, there are plenty of people who use e-mail to communicate nowadays. If the Bishop's phone isn't blowing up, I can only imagine how full his inbox must be! Not to mention, there's also the stress of having to return all those calls AND e-mails. Yikes.

Thanks but unfortunately, the Bishop doesn't check his e-mail as often as we'd like. But it's a given since the man's got a lot on his plate to begin with.

Really?? Hmm, then maybe I shouldn't worry about asking the Bishop... Just kidding. We were actually going to hold the ceremony in the RS room too! But then our guest list grew, and grew, and grew. Initially, it was suppose to be a very small wedding, I'd say about 50 people or so. It's still a bit small (about 75 people now) but it's more than what would fit comfortably in our RS room.

Thanks! It's SO exciting. Also, yes, memory is a funny little thing . I'm still confused as to what exactly sets apart a "procession" from a pomp "wedding march", or if they're actually considered to be the same thing. I should probably take some notes and bring them with me Sunday. After all, there is no telling when your memory will fail ya.

Yikes. And actually, part of the reason we decided to move it to a different room was so that we could have the photographers take pictures. I guess I'll have to wait (anxiously) until Sunday. Thanks anyway.

OK, here's where I get a little confused. We were going to have a procession to some simple music (not the traditional "Here Come's The Bride" bit), nothing extravagant whatsoever. Just your typical wedding processional. It includes the wedding party, and me at the end (e.g., ring bearer, flower girls, maids of honor, parents of Bride/Groom, bride, etc.). What I want to know is if this is considered a "wedding march"?? I'm REALLY hoping that it isn't because my side of the family (non-LDS) are REALLY looking forward to this part and are expecting it to be included, so was I. We talked to the Bishop about having the ceremony in the chapel. Then he told us about the "pomp" and "wedding march" part in the handbook. So we decided to move it to a different room within the church building to avoid doing anything sacrilegious. But now I'm hearing that the guidelines actually encompass the whole church building. Is this true?? As for the ring exchange, we are planning to do that toward the end of the ceremony (like traditional weddings). I'm pretty sure that this is OK. Like a lot of you mentioned, I am going to speak with the Bishop with my fiance this upcoming Sunday to clear things up. I was just hoping that I could gather a few experiences to get a general idea of what to expect. Actually, I received more responses than I expected initially so thanks everybody :) I really appreciate your input.

Hello everybody. My fiance and I are getting married this month. We're both members, however, we are not getting sealed in the temple yet. We would like to know how a Wedding Ceremony for LDS Members would be like. By the way, we're having the ceremony in a room inside of the church building and the reception in the cultural hall (gym). My fiance's Bishop is officiating and we haven't gotten a chance to talk to him about it yet. Have any of you gone to an actual wedding of LDS members (who haven't been sealed yet, i.e., NOT just a ring ceremony, but an actual, legal marriage)?. Is it like a "normal" wedding? Does the Bishop read specific vows or can we write our own vows? Is there an opening/closing prayer? Or is that done by the Bishop? As of right now, I'm assuming that since LDS members are only encouraged to be sealed, that there isn't a specific way to have a ceremony. So if you have been through this kind of experience or if you know of or have witnessed something like this, would you please share what it was like? Thanks a lot.

Thank you for your insight. I agree with mostly everything you have said but since I've purchased my dress already, I'll definitely just wear a nice jacket on top of it. If I were to go back in time though, I still wouldn't have had the time to find or order a modest dress such as the one you mentioned. In addition, I had a tight budget that I needed to stick to and the dress you provided in your comment looks very fancy and eccentric to me, nonetheless I'm sure it looked gorgeous on your sister. Unfortunately, none of the dresses I found in stores were modest enough and I had to make some changes to make it look more appropriate, but overall I am happy with the dress I chose and don't find it complicated at all. I just need to wear a simple jacket to cover the shoulders since my effort to make the dress more modest clearly didn't cut it. Thanks again though.

Thanks for recommending that website! I will definitely check it out. The jackets are very pretty.

Thank you. By the way, I wasn't planning on wearing the dress without sleeves, LOL. No way. But I will try to consult the Bishop about the dress.

Thanks so much for the advice! I agree, pleasing the future hubby that day is very important. I will definitely ask a couple of my future in-laws and will buy a jacket just in case. Thanks again for everything :)

Hi everybody, I'm getting married in January 2012 (not a sealing/temple wedding yet, but a small ceremony in my fiance's ward chapel) and I'm a convert (10/31/10). I've already purchased a wedding dress (Satin A-line with Asymmetrical Skirt - David's Bridal) (you can also view the back of the dress on this same page, below the big picture of the dress) with these cap sleeves added: Cap sleeve with beaded floral motif. - David's Bridal. When I tried it on, I didn't think it was immodest. I really liked the dress (with the cap sleeves, of course) and it fit the budget also. I bought a veil that goes to my waist to go along with it and overall, I was happy with my outfit. But I am kind of concerned that other people (mainly my in-laws) might not think it's modest since it isn't the traditional short sleeve wedding dress that I've seen so many other LDS women wear to their sealing/temple wedding. I really need help on deciding what do (if I can or shouldn't wear the dress down the aisle alone). I want to know what you think. If it is immodest then I'm going to order a jacket to go over it, something this: bridesmaid jacket style: VPBJ015 [VPBJ015] - $20.00 : $70-$90|cheap bridesmaid dresses|free shipping-V.P in white. I might even modify it to a short sleeve instead of a 3/4 sleeve. Any kind and helpful information is appreciated! Thanks so much! ~Nessa