TheOnlyJared

Thank you Sharky. That is exactly how I have felt. I'm finally getting to the point where I'm ok again. I'm still frustrated with the situation. I want so badly to be with Amber. I see her at least every tuesday and Thursday now and I love it. There's no awkwardness, no contention. We just have fun. Everything works when I'm with her. But in my head I'm going crazy because I don't know what she wants. So I come home to my roommate and rant to him about everything. He's that friend I needed. Unfortunately, he doesn't make it all go away. He just gives me someone to talk to. Everyday seems to get better and that's what matters. I no longer feel like crying is the only way to feel better. We'll see how things progress. I'll keep you guys posted.

If it is meant to be then it will happen. Study it out in your mind. Do what you can and let Heavenly Father guide you. If it doesn't work with him then it'll work with someone else. All you have to do is talk to the Lord. Make Him your best friend and everything will work out for your good. He's the best best friend you could ever have.

Then let the friendship grow. Don't back away just yet. Your relationship is still young. I honestly would rather be in your shoes right now. Amber's boyfriend broke up with her which means I have a chance. But we have some major issues to work thru if we're ever going to make it work. I'd rather just meet her and get to know her again. So count your blessings because your chances are MUCH better than mine.

Its hard to tell exactly why he's asking these questions. I don't want to get your hopes up because I really don't know, but most guys who ask those questions are asking them because they're interested.

Would it really hurt to ask? What do you have to lose. If it doesn't work out then at least you know for sure and you can move on with your life.

It sounds like you've already given up hope! Why?! You haven't tried to talk to him. How do you know he won't return the feelings? Communication is essential in any relationship. Talk to him. Tell him what you're thinking. Be honest with him! You'll never know for sure if he likes you back if you haven't asked him. If you unfriend him, he's just going to be incredibly confused unless you tell him the truth about how you feel. Stop holding yourself back because you're scared of a negative answer. If you don't ask him, the answer is always going to be no. So what do you have to lose?

Why don't you tell him how you feel? Go from there. But Vort is right. If he rejects you and it's too hard for you to handle take him off your Facebook til you're over him. I had to do that... It sucks, but it's necessary.

Sshannonbb, Things get better, but only after you get closure. The pain is still there, but you learn to deal with it until you can fill the void... Make Heavenly Father your best friend and you will find peace. He wants you to be happy. He'll never let us suffer longer than we have to. The moment I got closure and began to let go things got better. I can finally see the light at the end of the tunnel. I'm not there just yet, but I know it'll come. Just remember that you don't need anyone but Heavenly Father. If you remember that you will find happiness. Alucar, Why do you feel bad then?

Starscream, pm me. You will all be happy to know that I am doing MUCH better! I am focusing on staying positive and being the best person I can be. I have goals that I am working toward and I am more focused than I've ever been. I told Amber last Saturday that we couldn't be friends until she broke up with her boyfriend. So I was preparing to not speak to hr for at least a few months, possibly never again. I finally hit a point where I was determined to be happy. I expected the worst and hoped for the best. Well on Friday I got a call from her and she was crying. She asked if she could come talk to me. I said she could. So she came over and told me that he broke up with her. Apparently he went to the temple and realized that their relationship didn't feel right. So they're over. Later that night she asked me if she could come cuddle with me and I told her no because my bishop asked me not to date and I believe we need to rebuild our friendship, I don't know where all of this will take me. Honestly, I am not too worried about it anymore. Heavenly Father will make it happen if it's meant to be. I am just going to be the best person I can possibly be, knowing that Heavenly Father has a plan for me. Thank you all for your wonderful help. It means so much that people care enough to help a random stranger. I consider you all my brothers and sisters and I hope that I will be able to meet you all face to face one day in exaltation. If any of you ever need someone to talk to please let me know.

you know the funny thing is that i have either done or am currently doing all those things. I talk to a counselor, bishop, and a mentor who knows me very well and it very wise. I think this all comes down to finding a good way to cope with all this. I have been fortunate to be blessed with a sound enough mind to know that suicide is not the answer because if there's anything that would drive me to do something like that it would be this. This has all come down to having some patience which is very hard for me. So the bottom line is I really need a friend to talk to. Someone who will let me rant and give input when I ask for it. I just need someone there no matter what. I am working on relying more on the Lord and making Him my best friend, but there are just times when I am in a moment of weakness that I need someone imperfect to talk to. I guess there are times when I find ranting to a perfect being an intimidating experience. I know I shouldn't feel that way, but the idea of Him already knowing exactly what I'm going through makes it hard. I am so thankful for all of your support in all this. Feel free to keep posting anything that you feel would help. I am always looking for new ideas of how to cope with the situation. If you would like to know the story of what happened to me so you can better understand please message me. its a long story, but it might help you understand where I'm coming from.

Thanks guys... Dove, thank you for your thoughts. To be honest I think all I'm really looking for is comfort. I've done everything people have suggested to me and I'm working toward those things. But I'm figuring out that all I need is comfort. A shoulder to cry on. Someone I feel really cares and feels my pain. Not very many ppl can do that for me because they either don't have my trust or I'm just not comfortable hugging them. I honestly hate being this dramatic but it's honestly how I feel. I have a very hard time holding that in.

That's a good idea. Ill work toward that. I have so many things I wanna work toward. But until I start reaching those goals I'm still alone. I don't do well on my own...

Anatess, I would love to adopt a dog. Id give anything to do so. But I have no money and I live in a student apartment that doesn't allow dogs... I've wanted a dog for a very long time, but its kind of impossible right now.

Thanks. I'm trying to get as much help as I can. I talk to a couple of my church leaders regularly and I have a counselor that I meet with. I'm just having a very hard time letting go.

Yes I will be attending school Pam. Eowyn, I've been trying very hard to stay busy and I pray constantly. But it still doesn't fill every second. I always eventually get back here. Heartbroken and wishing there was something I could do to get her back. All I wanna do is cry all the time because it's the only thing that makes me feel better...