lovingwife

I want to thank you all for your advice and support. It's been a couple of months now and I must say we are definitely on a path of forgiveness and love. He has stopped contacting her and has really shown me that he values our marriage and wants to improve. I know our Father in Heaven has had His hand in helping us save our marriage and find the way to become close again. I've never been one to make rash decisions and I'm thankful for that. I love my husband dearly and I knew deep down that he loved me very much too. The pain is gone...seriously, gone. The hurt and devastation I once felt have been replaced with even more love then before. I know that because we were BOTH willing to work hard to get through this difficulty we were blessed with the love of God in our hearts. Thank you all....you were there for me when I needed someone to listen...

I should clarify that my husband and I have already talked a lot about this and the negative effect it has on our relationship. I'm trying to work through the pain and the hurt because ultimately I love him and I know through repentance and forgiveness we can be made whole again. My concern has been that he is still talking to her, albeit much less then he was, but still has been talking to her. He has said that he is very sorry and wants to take the steps necessary to be forgiven and help strengthen our marriage. We talked again last night and I shared my concerns again in I think a bit of a clearer manner. I know he is trying to gain back my trust....it's just such a hard and hurtful path to take. My heart is in a million pieces and yet I still deeply love him and I KNOW he loves me. We have two beautiful children together and I want what's best for them. I know we can make it through this....it's just such a difficult challenge to have to face. I appreciate all of the comments that have been made so far. It helps me validate my own feelings. I'm grateful to have a place to share my feelings since I WILL NOT go to friends or family in fear of tarnishing their opinion of my husband. He is a good man just made a few mistakes. We are going to get through this I know and have faith that our Father in Heaven is by our side helping us work through it and that ultimately we will become closer because of it.

I'm trying to process so please forgive my lack of fluid thoughts....I've been married 9 years. My husband has had "crushes" during our marriage with women from work or what not. He on three occasions developed strong feelings for them and has talked to them a lot. He texts and calls almost daily.Most recently, he has been talking to a woman that works for the same company but in a different location. They have never met just sent pics of eachother. (nothing lewd just normal pics) As far as I can tell it's nothing sexual...but he still talks to her like he used to talk to me while we were dating. It's been the same with the previous women. Is this considered an emotional affair?? What should I do to try to heal and forgive?? My trust level with him is so far gone. I find myself reading his texts when he's out of the room to see if he's talked to her that day...I feel like I'm going nuts. I don't want to be an overbearing wife and push him away but at the same time I don't want to ignore the behavior. He has said that he is trying to work through it and that the crush is going away...but he is still talking to her...should I ask him to stop or just trust that he will be ok? Is this something that needs to be dealt with by the Bishop? Or is it just a between us issue??? I'm in need of so much advice and support here!