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thanks everyone for ur advice i will try to be a lil more outgoing..

lots of people go alone at a single ward not a family ward though..

im actually new to the ward like i stated i was inactive for a while and i'm trying go back to be active but its really tough.. Classylady and u were alone ?? or with ur family?? if i have family or friends with me i would be more comfortable around other people.

im actually new to the ward like i stated i was inactive for a while and i'm trying go back to be active but its really tough.

yea i would do all of that if i have a friend with me to those places or activities . It's kind of awkward to be alone while everyone elses in the room are with their family. i'm shy as well i don't see people during the days due to my work schedule. i'm from New Jersey and a mid single ward is kinda far from me.

Hi thanks for reading!! here is my story i 'm Thai and my family are Buddhist ! i'm the only Mormon. I live an hour away from my friends and family and my job is an hour away so basically i am here in my area right now alone well i moved out here because my ex wanted to live out here but now we're no longer together so i feel alone and i know i'm trying to move but my house is still not yet sold. i want to make new friends in my ward but i'm too old well 33 to be in a YSA branch and i'm divorced and feel out of place in a family ward. People are nice and all but i'm always sitting alone at sacrament meeting and i went to relief society once and no one spoke to me or even acknowledge me at all. I didn't feel comfortable since i'm new to relief society. I have been inactive for a while and being alone is the reason why i've been inactive .i just feel like i don't fit in . I don't have family to go to church with and it's tough. It's really tough. I have been somewhat active for the last 6 months. I go whenever i can but lately i'm just feeling really weird about going to church. I don't really talk to the missionaries now either and they are the only people i know. I love being Mormon and i do have faith in the church but it's so tough for me because i don't know anyone and i'm always alone and there is no one my age that i can really talk to either. Deep down i really want to go to church and be active again but I am just uncomfortable. What should i do? and yes i don't have the missionaries over anymore for at least a week and half now and i guess they are too busy to call or texts me since i am not an investigator. I'm already a member .. I don't know what to do.. I feel very discouraged right now.

no they are only at my house once a week for an hour !! that's it.. eat dinner and read scriptures with me.. eheheh

and sometimes i would go out of my way to order food for them from restaurnt like the olive garden too..

haha sharkbait :) that's cool i like missionaries! i love having them over and i love feeding them :) and give them food to take home too. no worries i'm not going to fall for a missionary ever again i just genuinely love to be nice to them !! is that bad??

yeah seeking peace it's probably is depends on mission president when i was living around one area. I barely have missionaries over but since i'm in the area that i'm in right now. they are here once a week and would always have another male member with them and if they happen to stop by real quick to deliver something or pick something up from me. they would just stay outside and chat for a min. or so and they wouldn't even come into my house.

Oh hmm That's strange !!

we use to have the sisters missionaries and they stop by my house once a week as well but about six months ago they changed it to the elders ...

no they texts me to schedule appt first.. well they want me to stay active and they think that i need help since i've been inactive for a while.. That's the reason why they stop by once a week. it's not a big deal. They are trying to help me :)

hey i do not texts them or call them unless they texts me first to schedule a day to stop by my house..

i like their company ..yep thats exactly what they do everytime they come over.. have lunch or dinner and read scriptures and then thats it..

lol no wonder i had such a feeling for that last elder who just left my area to go back home about 3 weeks ago.. because i always see him and do texts him lots too.

I don't really know why either.. but i've had missionaries over my house with priesthood holder for over 6 months now at least.. i don't mind.. i think the missionaries in my ward do go to other members house not just my house. I'm not sure though but they come over once a week..

yeah the elders stop by my house with a priesthood holder at all times and they do come over once a week and most of the time i do have them over for lunch or dinner. I was inactive for a while i think that's why they comes over once a week to read with me.. no i'm not even over that last missionary so no i'm not going to fall for anyone right now.. i'm just still a lil sad but i'm doing better. i'm not going to allow myself to fall for another missionary period because i know better now..

hey question here do you have missionaries over your house once a week at all?? like i do?? i'm a member. don't get me wrong i like having them over but i'm curious ..

i guess i oughta do that lol

no not a coordinator or something like assistance i'm confused .. yeah i have a bunion and i was suppose to get that surgery done a long time ago but i'm too scared to !! i read somewhere online that the recovery time is pretty long..

i just got kinda comfortable in my new ward and they finally found my record. I had a chat with my bishop yesterday and I ve been giving a calling called compassionate something.. what do i expect?? and im getting my bunion removed early nov. so that mean i won't be able to do anything until i'm fully recovered. so i guess i'll have to let my bishop know about it then?? or should i let him know now?? can u tell me more about the calling ? i know i'm serving those that are in need.. but i've never had a calling before so i'm pretty unsure how to go about it.

no i'm already realizing it now but it'll take time for the pain to go away. i can't just get over it within a week or two. it'll probably will take months. i do realize that i don't need his validation. i have to learn how to love myself and just do me. i always wanted to go back to school to do something else with my life and that's exactly what i'm going to do.

But then he said yeah he ll be hurt as well when I asked him this " how would he feel if a girl he like rejected him."

Well I'm not trying to convince anyone that I'm helpless ... I'm not going to go through life by being afraid to love !! Love is a beautiful thing!! At least it's not hate!! And I did what I had to do!! And went for it even though the outcome is not what I want but I'm learning a lot from this!! I can say that the is the first time that I ever been this brave !! And yes im hurt and it's painful !! My self esteem is super low right now because I've been rejected!! I wish though that he was a bit sensitive but he was very straightforward and blunt!! He actually asked me why am I hurting??? He told me that he have never thought of me in a romantic way but how could he ?? He was on his mission.. He s not suppose to think abt anything beside serving the lord!! He didn't even give me a chance!! The door was shut right in my face !! Like I'm nothing!! But whatever I won't dwell on this any longer !! This is a great lesson !!