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Well ur a girl and he s a guy .. Our society is accepting of that more than us girls being with way younger guys ..

yes i could of saved my myself the dissapointment that i'm feeling right now by stay away from him and not develope a crush on him and i tried that i even prayed to heavenly father everynight as well to forget about him but my feelings for him got stronger and stronger. i cried almost everyday. i hate the feeling of liking someone who is off limit! but the heart can't help it.

perhaps there are some things he did out of kindness towards me like on my birthday he showed up on my front door with chocolate and i wasn't even home. i thought that was nice of him and his companion. i like the way he looked at me and i love the way he talk to me. we were somewhat close it wasn't just a missionary and a student.I have them over for dinner often as well. we were more like friends and he even said it himself that he considered me as a really good friend to him. i deleted my fb alltogether because we have more than 6 mutual friends and i can't take it if one day soon i'm sure he'll have pics of his gf all over his fb.. i know i didn't have a relationship with him but i really like this guy and i need to move on with my life. i can't keep on being on fb .. i'm on 24/7 so i need to stop being on it and get on with my life beside fb and work. i guess it's all in my head. i was in a relationship and marriage for 12 yrs. i have never dated much and i'm pretty naive to believe that he actually have some sort of feelings toward me as well maybe it's just me i did felt the connection between him and i. i'm a woman and my intuition is pretty off this time around. my intuition is pretty accurate most of the time but i'm so wrong. i have been crying for these last couple of months because of this guy my feeling for him was really strong and today i felt relief because i got my answer that i was looking for all along. I mentioned this many times. I just want to move on .. and in order for me to move on is to pour my heart out to him and see what he say. i m still hurt trust me but i know that i will eventually will move on.. my feeling for him is very geniune and i want nothing but the best for him and i can't be his friends right now its because i'm hurt and i can't take it if i see pics of him and his gf together maybe one day i will get back on fb and add him as friends again.

yes but we're not numbers we're human beings and i don't even look my age i look younger than my age .. yes i understand about our age differences and i tried to not like him but it's not that easy but im glad i got my answer and it's over now and all i have to do right now is to get over it and work towards my goal and enjoy life.

i hope so :)

rameumptom It's not a break up it's a rejection. I poured my heart out to this returned missionary and he doesn't feel the same way but why did he asked me all these questions about my love life for ex. what's going on between u and your ex and are u dating anyone right now? i don't get it so i told him how i feel and he made it so clear. in a way i am happy that i was able to tell him and now i'm hurt but at least i will be able to move on and perhaps months from now i might start to date again and eventually fall in love with someone who truly cares about me and love me and be happy. i did what i had to do.

LEAH yeah you're right he's probably not proud or happy but i'm not in front of him so i wouldn't know if he's happy or proud or sad.. yes he was a missionary in my area for 6 months and that's how long ive known him. how could i not fall for him or have a crush on him when i spend once a week with him and see him at church almost every sunday. i didn't want to have a crush on him but can i help it?? he doesn't owe me anything and i do realize that i can't be mad or angry. i can't force it. i'm not mad at him. i told him how i feel because i need him to reject me in order to move on with my life. I just need to hear it from him that he doesn't have feelings for me. he told me he only see me as a really good friend and nothing more and i can totally get that and i do still want to remain friends with him but i'm hurt right now so i deactivated my fb account for now until i am over him. i don't want to have to see his wedding pics or status all over his fb once he get married. today i'm feeling a lil better than yesterday so i'm glad i cried soo much already for these past 4-5 months and i cried some more last night.

Haha you guys r funny .. Thanks all for ur advice :) totally appreciate it! Vort might be right !! Like when I was chatting with him as he is coldly told me that he doesn't like me more than a good friend he doesn't seem too sad .. He seem like he s somewhat proud and happy that I'm hurting .. Maybe he s not the nice guy that I thought he was after all .. I just need to move on and not like him !

Aww thanks miss halfway :) I totally would be laughing so hard if that was to happens haha.. I guess time heals !!

Thanks I needed this rejection from him in order to stop liking him. I know it'll take week perhaps months but at least I can stop wondering or waiting to see what will happen .. I'm surprise that I have the guts to tell him .. I ll feel better soon I hope !! I can now move on with my life .. I was in pain for these 5-6 months because of this guy cause of my feelings toward him.. One day I'm ok the next I'm upset and sad just because of him.. But from today on I m not going to feel that way ever again..

hate rejections

I just deactivated my fb !! i'm never going to go on there ever again !! i don't ever want to associate myself with him or anyone that knows him ever.. he doesn't feel same way at all.. i'm so hurt.. soo much pain.. how do i get over a rejection?

i'm hurt! i got my answer he doesn't feel the same way at all.. soo painful..

Well today i couldn't help it !! i'm tired of keeping it to myself so i emailed him on fb and told him how i feel ! i can't keep it to myself anymore! i just need closure !! and i need to move on if he doesn't respond or feel the same way towards me .. so i just did it.. i'm waiting for him to respond back right now i don't know if he's going to respond back or but i'm tired of crying over this man and daydreaming about him.. if he doesn't like me back i guess i'm going to be crying a whole lot for the next couple of days but at least i know..

No trust me my chance is not better !! he's a returned missionary i'm sure there are girls in utah who 's probably will fall for him sooner or later he'll forget all about me he have a really great personality and he s attractive who wouldn't want him. I love him soo much it hurts !! as for you yeah just give it sometime with amber. start over and just be there for her as friends and take it from there. that's not too bad.. what i want from him right now is for him to come back here to see me or i go see him and spend sometime with him like normal people and not a missionary... but u know what what's meant to be will always be..

Yea I know what u mean by that! I'll wait a lil longer to see what he s going to say or do first .. I would really love it though if I can spend a day with him and see if the connection is there I do felt it when he was around me these past 6 months that we have known each other.. I'm sorta close to him as friends and I love our friendship..

we finally chatted earlier !! but i didn't tell him how i feel yet.. though he asked me if i'm dating anyone right now and if my previous marriage is over yet or not.. and if i still have feelings for my ex.. i told him no.. i don't have feelings for my ex and no i'm not seeing anyone right now either.. why is he asking me all of these questions??

he's online he doesn't really say much to me! sat. he messaged me once and i messaged him back and he still haven't reply back yet !! i don't know why.. and i'm not going to bother him.

The reason why i don't want to persue him it's because i'm 33 and he's only 21!! I have more experience with life ! I feel as if i'm not good enough for him since i am newly divorced! and he is a newly returned missionary and that's the reason why i have given up hope alltogether. It's complicated.

yeah you're both are right ! i don't think that i am able to tell him anything like that but i do need closure though it's really hard i'm thinking about it though maybe 2 weeks from now since he did just got home from his mission. Yeah i think i will have to unfriend him after i told him that make lots of sense. Should i tell him that i will unfriend him until i'm over him?? or should i just keep it to myself?? Thanks for your advice !! I hope everything is working out for you ...

i was in the same situation!!

and trust me i will see his wedding pics once he get married.. he might even give me an invitation to his wedding (

He is a friend on FB!! we chatted sometimes too in the past :) i only message him if he message me first!! that's how i am i guess i'm old fashion..

that's true!

why do i feel bad?? i fell strongly for someone who is a lot younger than me!! and he is now an RM. I love him but there is nothing i can do about it! it hurts like crazy just thinking that one day he'll be married and i'll see his wedding pics all over his FB. I have been praying and praying perhaps one day i will feel better as time goes by. thanks for ur advice :)