Addiction involves placing your desire for something above everything else (i.e. family, job). Addiction is a very real problem and addiction experts have said that sexual addiction is harder to overcome than even an addiction to cocaine. An article by Elder Oaks in the May 2005 Ensign states: "Pornography impairs one’s ability to enjoy a normal emotional, romantic, and spiritual relationship with a person of the opposite sex. It erodes the moral barriers that stand against inappropriate, abnormal, or illegal behavior. As conscience is desensitized, patrons of pornography are led to act out what they have witnessed, regardless of its effects on their life and the lives of others. Pornography is also addictive. It impairs decision-making capacities and it “hooks” its users, drawing them back obsessively for more and more. A man who had been addicted to pornography and to hard drugs wrote me this comparison: “In my eyes cocaine doesn’t hold a candle to this. I have done both. … Quitting even the hardest drugs was nothing compared to [trying to quit pornography]”" (http://library.lds.org) While I am sure that there are many cases in which sexual repression causes problems in a relationship, I think that sexual addiction is a huge problem and should not be ignored merely because there are other problems out there. A husband's addiction to pornography does not imply sexual repression on the wife's part. In many cases the addiction was nutured before the couple even met. The pain that wives of sexual addicts have to endure is very real and very destructive. I would much rather have women request help for an addiction that doesn't exist than have women have to go through such a trial without someone to help them through it.