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I said shame and not guilt for that reason. Guilt is about wanting to try again, shame is about beating yourself up. If you ever think anything along the lines of "I am a bad person" or "not worthy of God's (or your wife's) love." That's bad. But, I need to work on this a little more is good.

Here are some things that you can try that are not mentioned before, and I have seen a lot of success with them. 1) Go to A Better Mormon | Become Part of the Solution of Pornography Addiction and listen to the 7 CD's. Also have your wife listen to them. Tony covers the brain science (neuroscience) behind porn addictions and this will help your wife understand your problem as well. Hopefully, it can help her see your addiction as a chemical addiction instead of a "I want to look at naked women" addiction. (Think about what you want when you look at porn. I don't think you want to look a dirty pictures and videos, you just want a chemical high in your brain that these pictures produce.) 2) Start to eat better and start to exercise more. Go on daily walks and do stuff to de-stress. You cannot just cut your addiction to the chemicals in your brain, you will need to replace them by doing healthy activities that won't get you into trouble. I really recommend Yoga! 3) Tony has a Porn Addiction | Stop the porn addiction | Curethecraving.com that you can join for free. 4) Don't do porn and mb at the same time and don't try to quit both at the same time. Make a rule that you have to wait 5 hours after porn to mb. I suggest just mb first and get it over with. You could even tell your wife. Tell her that you hate looking at porn, but if you don't have a release you fear that you might do both. Remember your goal to cut porn out first, and then work on reducing the need to mb. If you still look at porn after this, then you might schedule a release once or twice a week. Your wife might be able to help with this, but don't put any pressure on her. This isn't her problem, it's yours. NEVER tell her that she needs to take care of you or you will watch porn, because that makes it her problem again. Also, if you need to fanatize, then make sure it is about your wife. I know this might sound a little backwards, but I have seen it really work. Once it is "okay" to mb, the desire reduces dramatically. Also, we can't be perfect with the snap of the fingers, so why not just focus on one thing at a time. 5) Remove all shameful feelings. Don't keep track of how long you have been sober, and don't worry about doing it again. You probably will do it again, but who cares! You are on a path to bring you closer to Christ. Just because you slip every now and then doesn't mean you fell off the path. After every slip, just analyze what your triggers might have been and then think next time when I feel this I will go for a walk (or something else) instead. Say a prayer and ask for help, and then move on! Don't let it ruin any more of your day!