Since this has been going on so long, I understand why it started. I was not meeting his emotional needs. We had been married for over ten years at that point and I thing we both got complacent and I know that and have spent the last two years trying to get us back on tract.
He knew this woman before we got married an met up with her a decade later through facebook. He had told me about her and that she was also mormon and married with children and I figured it was okay for them to be friends because in my wildest dreams I never imagined that a mormon woman married in the temple would ever do something like this. I didn't think my husband and the father of my children would betray me. That was the biggest mistake I ever made.
I hate the idea of having to move to another state to get away from her. I don't even know if my husband would do that. She is not a co-worker or in my ward, but they don't seem to be able to leave each other alone.
We are once again at the point where he is telling me that he is having no contact with her. But this pattern has been going on for a year. Him denying it until I find proof that he is lying and then I confront him and he says they are not going to have contact and it is that way till I find out again.
I think I struggle with all the lies and secrets. I really could use the radical honesty but I don't think he will ever come truly clean with me. I know there are still secret accounts But he still puts me off about them. Does it all ever get easier?