I disagree.... I've been there. I married an idea, three months in knew something was very wrong. By the end of the first year I was in trouble. 12 more yrs of sex twice a year bcuz I had no feelings for him in that way. I made a mistake and fear of persecution, etc kept me in this empty, lonely marriage. Now I'm remarried I have real joy. I've never worked so hard or wanted something so much because I love him in that way. There are different types of love. Marriage is a great reward for kindness.