My husband is a night owl, and he frequently stays up later than me as this is the only time is has to himself in our busy schedule with work and 4 kids. I've never suspected anything and he is a good dad and husband. This morning (after he was up late) i came down stairs and found the shades down (we normally don't mess with them) and the headphones hooked up to the computer. My family are hard sleepers and normally he surfs the net next to me in bed while i sleep, so i thought it odd. i turned the computer on and checked the history and it was blank... so naturally i dropped the search bar down and low and behold he had been viewing pornography. i asked him about it this right after i found it, and he lied at first, tried to blame it on me, then realized he was caught. He didn't say much,, so i asked,, he said he doesn't do it very much,, hardly ever,, (which i think i believe) and then just kept asking me what i wanted him to say.... i said i only wanted to hear the one thing he didn't say,, so he said he would never do it again....
my husband is in the army and has deployed twice for a year. I know he has mb while we were apart, in fact he mentioned it, but said he was thinking of me, and he missed me... i didn't think it was a big deal since he never does when he is home (that i know of) but after catching him this morning i'm wondering how much pornography came into play when we were apart..?
I don't know what to do? i don't know how big of a deal this is? we haven't spoken about it because i always put my foot in my mouth and come out sounding judgmental and i don't want to begin a conversation before i know where i think it should go...
is mb wrong in all situations?
i needed to be set apart in church today and he followed me,,, i asked him if he felt worthy to help,, he said yes,, i paused and asked him if that was right,,,, he took the kids to the car,,,,
i know that it is his thing to deal with, however he chooses, but what does this mean? does looking at pornography mean you are not temple worthy right away? should he not use his priesthood power? i don't think he is addicted at all....
i asked him why and he said that he was a sexual being and sometimes it got the better of him... there just didn't seem to be any remorse, just obligatory responses....
aside from not knowing what to do, or what questions to ask, i'm not even scratching the surface of how it makes me feel.... i'm trying to separate that from the situation...