I'm not pushing it on her, I would not do that to anyone. I have my beliefs, others can take them or leave them. Not to say you are saying I am, only saying I agree pushing religion on others spells disaster. It would be full of irony as well, considering she is part Native American.
I hope I haven't come off here like I am innocent. Obviously I'm not. I do see where she's coming from. This is Akron, birthplace of AA, and there are literally hundreds of other meetings in this area, and she's thinking "why this one?" Deep down, I think she is afraid I'm paving a road to get the h**l out, but I'm not. I'm just extremely foggy, confused, and at times aphasic, and scrambling to do the right thing amongst several compulsions to turn back. But nothing seems to be able to erase the hurt I have caused her. In the end, I introduced her to opiates, so I feel completely responsible for her state. She quit drugs, but is not attempting to change her behavior, which in the 12 step world equals 'dry drunk' status. Which is miserable.
I am praying that I can show her and my children through my example how much better a person I can be, and I agree with you that when they actually SEE change instead of lip service that she will become more receptive to the church, failing that, that she will at least not be passively angry at me for going back.
I saw a quote once that read "When I got sober, things didn't get any easier. But they got REAL ******* clear."
Indeed.