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I definitely think that being alone was our biggest problem, and we are going to work really hard to fix that. We are planning on talking to the bishop when I come back home in a few days. I want to put everything out on the table and ask in humility how we can fix it together. I know that we can get through it without breaking it off. That has always been my biggest fear, is that the bishop would say that we shouldn't see each other anymore. That would absolutely devastate me. I'm so close with her and her family, that I just feel it is crucial that we find a way to make it work by staying together. I have done a lot of praying and I feel like I now have the strength to make the personal choice not to let this happen again.

Yes. I am a new member so I am learning the severity of these things. I'm intentionally being reckless or anything, I'm also not perfect. I am doing my very best to follow in the footsteps of Christ, and I have made some monumental changes in my life to get where I am now. I feel like everyone expects me to change from my old habits instantly, but I'm not capable of that, and as soon as I mess up I am chastised hard for it. I know I messed up. That's obvious. The two answers I have received thus far so that I'm not serious about repenting, and I shouldn't date her. I am obviously serious about repenting because I am asking you guys questions instead of letting it go. I want to know how I can prevent these things from happening in the future. No one has been able to answer that.

That's not necessarily true. We have hung out plenty of times before and had no problems. We have probably spent a total of 100 days together and it has happened three times. It's not like we lose control every time.

I am a convert and I am 19. I converted about 6 months ago and I have been progressing well in the church. I consider myself to be fairly spiritual but I do have some weaknesses sometimes. Having not grown up in the church I was accustomed to sexual acts with girls in my previous teen years. I am still a virgin, but I have done some things recently that Heavenly Father probably doesn't approve of. Here is some background: I have been dating this girl for 8 months, and we do a long distance relationship. She is a member of the church, and she has taught me tons and tons of stuff about the LDS faith. She is my best friend, and I consider both of us to be spiritual for 99% of the time. We have these amazing talks about church, and we read/pray over skype every night. The problem is that we miss each other really bad so when we do see each other (which is about once a month) sometimes things get a little bit out of hand and we go too far. Like feeling each other up and playing around. I am going back home in a few days for the summer and I just don't want these things to happen ever again. We have messed up three times before. Once in October, and we cleared it up with the bishop. Once in January, we didn't talk to the bishop but we repented a ton, and I believe we resolved it on our own. We then did really well until this last weekend I went home and it went too far one more time. We think we need to talk to the bishop about our temptation. It sucks since we do so so well most of the time, but for some reason we can't control ourselves in the heat of the moment at times. This girl means the world to me, and I just want to marry her in the temple someday. What can we do to prevent this from happening again? And should we take action now in response to what happened last weekend?