Thanks for the replies. I have a lot of "faith" (for lack of a better word) in my stake pres. But I do think something serious needs to occur, regardless of my decision of staying or going. Anyone that has been through this knows what an emotional roller coaster it is. One moment I am ready to walk, next moment I want to fight tooth and nail to save my marriage. But that's the folly- it doesn't matter one bit how hard I fight, if he isn't going to do his part, it makes no difference. Part of me believes this will inevitably happen again, though I fully believe in the power of Christ's atonement (which is why I was able to stay previously). It's just such a mess being a stay at home mom with kids. I guess that is self centered to say, these things are always a mess.
I really just want to be with someone I trust, who adores me as much as I do him, and who I can reasonably see myself with in old age. I have long had part of my mind wondering if that would happen with my husband. I so deeply want him to be this man.
Sorry. Like I said, I just need somewhere to let it out and not feel terribly judged. No one in my life knows what it going on. I'm too humiliated to let it out.