clej

Thank you. The missionaries are speaking with the mission president in the next hour and they will be getting back to us today. I hope it goes well. Our family really wants to be baptized LDS. Our son was asking about it this morning and making a Lego temple. :)

We will not be allowing any adult at any time to ask our child questions at their discretion without our support available. This isn't about trying to work around it. While my child is a minor, everything that goes on in their lives is our business as parents. They should never have private conversations with people that their parents are not to know the content of. That is not in proper order and to me that is what should be obvious, not the confidentiality of a ten year old's conversation with someone else. The missionaries do not interview my child, the bishop does. Much about these interviews concerns me. I as a married woman do not speak with another man about sex other than my husband. I am not okay with talking to a bishop about sexual matters. They can ask about the law of chastity and ask if I am following it, but I would not answer specific questions. I am also not okay with the idea that the church does not approve of a woman in a closed room with a man that is not her husband, yet they approve of a bishop in a closed room with a girl of any age talking with her about chastity. I have been a child abuse educator. There are many, many children that have been taken advantage of by people in a position of authority, while their parents claimed they never would have thought such a thing would have occurred. I never want to be one of those parents. Sexual and other forms of abuse has gone on in the LDS church, and ignoring that fact would be very naive of me with my child the one at stake. Also, I understand our bishop will be asking the question about masturbation when our son turns 12 and has his interview then. Since that will never happen, we should probably get this sorted out right now. My question was however, has anyone been in the room with their child when they were interviewed?

My husband and I have been going to an LDS church and we love it. It has made a huge difference in our home and in each of us personally. We have run across a couple of barriers regarding baptism and future interviews where our ten year old son is concerned. My husband and I will not allow our son to be interviewed by any adult behind closed doors without us present. The missionaries have gone up the chain of command and have let us know that our son will have to be alone for the interview. I understand their reasons......that they want to be sure we are not coaxing our child into our faith, but they are not acknowledging the room for abuse to happen via the interviewer. Has anyone been able to go into their child's interview?