FarmerMom

I love pinterest. It's a way to compile pics, recipes, crafts, articles, etc-really anything-onto boards relating to that topic. I 'follow' other people and their pins show up on my feed and I pick and choose which ones to 'pin' to my board...(say a recipe I don't want to forget) and when I need it I just go back to my 'recipe' board and find it. People also follow me and re-pin things I happen to find and pin. It's a sharing thing. It's actually pretty cool.

Another thing to-I love my grandmother. That's why I am caring for her. She is a connection to another time, she grew up in the woods with an outhouse with a father who had been a cowboy-a real one, and her mother was a half native american assemblies of god minister. She became very successful in the phone company and did very well for herself. Her strength is amazing. But her bad side is her willful ignorance, her meanness and her thinking that people should adore her and follow her like the Gospel. Now she has dementia and her meanness and ignorance are just overboard. So as I said, it's hard to reason with her. I just hate hiding my religion but I guess I have to if she is this convinced it's evil.

Amazing you posted this. Last night when she was in full throttle yelling at me like I'm a five year old (I'm 41) telling me I hate her faith (faith has never been an issue at all, this has come up in the last week) I just hugged her in the middle of her rant. Just hugged her and it defused it all and she broke down-but this morning she has been making up everything she can to prove how evil LDS is. ya know, if it wasn't this it would be something else, I'm sure. She thinks that if someone loves her then they 'bow down' to her (her words) or they completely agree with her and do what SHE says. When she sees I'm doing my own thing she flips-and I usually argue back-so last night when I hugged her she wasn't expecting it and if chilled everything out. I will just be quiet about it and it may blow over. I really think that if she doesn't 'see' it it won't occur to her. My biggest problem is not being 'honest' about being a member of the church. I don't like lying outright or by omission but she clearly can't reason about some things. The biggest issue here is her mental state and it's in decline and you just can't reason or explain anything to a mind like that, which is sad. Thanks.

That's what I'm thinking-she's not in a place to really understand or learn or receive any information about LDS at all. You can't get her to understand anything. Thanks. :)

I tend to feel the same way. I'ms truggling with 'I'm an adult and we pay our own way I don't have to answer to you' as well as 'you have got to be kidding me.' Thanks for the response. :)

I know I don't post a lot-just perusing the forums and learning, but I do have a situation I would appreciate some input about. My husband and children and I (ranging from adults to 1 yo) moved to take care of my grandmother and the family farm 8 months ago. We could live on our own, but it was easier to move in with Gma and handle the farm, etc with living with her. She is a feisty woman who is in profound denial about her limitations (physical and mental) and still thinks she has it all together. She doesn't. There is a nearby relative who is older who doesn't care for me, is quite negative and they get together and get riled up about things I supposedly do. (it's only me that is the target-they love my kids and husband). Ok there's the background. My grandmother is pentecostal and HATES Mormons. She is convinced that the missionaries are coming around to try to take her property from her. She says that they will go 'through the back door' to take ranchers property'. SHe says she has heard it her whole life. I call nonsense on it all, try to reason with her and she lets it drop that I am written out of the will should I decide to talk to 'the mormons'. So no, she doesn't know I have been baptised and that my children and husband are being baptised in the next month. I know a lot of the paranoia goes with her mental state and she knows about as much about the Bible as a cow in the pasture-but now I am put in a tough position. I won't stop being a Mormon. I can't believe the peace I've found but I don't like lying, either and as I am her primary caregiver, if I leave-she won't do well. She can barely fix food for herself...so...do I just keep it quiet? Am I a bad person if I am dishonest about being LDS to her to keep everything on an even keel? Any input would be great. Thanks.

Funny you say this. When I first prayed I told God that I wanted the BOM to be true, but despite that, I needed to know the truth-esp. of where Heavenly Father wanted me to be. I didn't get a whole lot-curiously absent. So about a week went by, I cancelled the next meeting with the Missionaries and I sat down ready to put all the materials they brought us, away- and without really thinking, opened the BOM and it hit me-I felt something so wonderful-it's that feeling I have searched for throughout so many religious avenues. It found me and I knew at that moment that it was all true. It hit me broadside and I NEVER expected such an obvious, profound feeling. Ever. But it was great. So on the one hand, yes, what you say happened to me-then later it hit me unexpectedly and clear out of the blue. I don't doubt that if someone is hardened to it (not saying you are) they won't receive any warm fuzzy feeling, but I figure they won't receive any warm fuzzies from any denomination they are ambivalent or negative towards.

Thanks very much, I appreciate the advice :)

So my Baptism is this Saturday evening and I'm really happy about it-there are people from church who will be there for support (which is really sweet). I was wondering if I should get a gift for the Missionaries who have been coming out? Is that something that people do? Also, I don't quite know how to react to such kindness from everyone. It seems really genuine and I am really moved by how thoughtful people have been. It's kind of hard for me to accept gifts and kindness, I tend to be socially anxious at times- I feel like just saying 'thank you' isn't enough. Any advice on how to react to people who are taking time out of their day to be there ? Thanks.

I have had a hard time with forgiveness as well. I've prayed a lot-set boundaries so there aren't repeats of issues. Prayed and prayed and in time it does get better.

Thank you all so much for the wonderful welcome. :)

Hello all-I'm a married mom with six children and after a long road I have decided to join The Church. I became truly interested when, during some genealogy work, I found out my 5th Great Grandparents were John Reed and Rebecca Bearce, who were early LDS pioneers. I found I have a really strong Mormon heritage on my mother's side and didn't even know it! So I did some research, have been talking to the Missionaries and went to Church. I do enjoy it and feel like, after years of searching I have found my place. It's a wonderful feeling.I am being Baptized on the 21st of this month. I'm 41 and feel kinda silly that it is this late in life but I am glad that I am finally here. I am fortunate in that my husband and children all are excited and are learning along with me, and I have a strong feeling that it won't be terribly long before they also become Baptized. For now, it's just me, though. Anyway, enjoying the boards and glad to be here.