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Thank you to everyone for your Comments. That were a great help. What I am looking for now is someone that I can talk to in confidence about some things that are currently going. I don't want to necessarily discuss these things ona public forum. Any words of advice? Suggestions of people to talk to?

Applepansy - you don't need the answers but I am going to briefly answer them so that if there is someone in a similar situation they may find some comfort in my answers. They are very tough questions and they are things we have talked about extensively. I have no problem with our children going to an LDS church and he has no problem! With them going to a church of my choosing. Our agreement has been yes as long as neither of us "force" a religion on a child. If a child wants to be baptized in the LDS church I want it to be their decision without outside influence. We want to simply educate them. Teach them what we believe and let them decide. This sounds easy in theory but we both understand that this will be difficult for us and our families. We believe that as parents we should give our children as much information as possible and let them run with it.

[quote name=LiterateParakeet;801760 Again' date=' try and be patient with the mom....think how much you care for your BF, she loves him too, and she is just concerned. I don't condone her behavior, but we all make mistakes sometimes trying to protect what we love. You both love him, now try to love each other. Thank you! This really touched me and I greatly appreciate the honesty. I hope that we can strengthen our relationship because I'm fairly cerstain we will be a part of each others lives for quite some time. This is made a little difficult due to his family living in the middle of the cou try and us living on the coast. Thank you for your kindness. I can't explain how much kind words from someone mean. Also, prayer has come back into my life which has brought !e more comfort that I ever thought imaginable.

Thank you for your input. I certainly understand her concern, however I don't think any one should be treated that way in this kind of situation. His beliefs in how to raise children don't exactly line up with hers but Im not sure if she knows that. We both want to raise our children to have an understanding of God without forcing a religion on them. It is complicated and there are several things to work out but we are adults who want to be together so we feel we should be given respect on that matter. Thanks again. Maybe over time she will see that we want to be together and really support and love is all any of us want.

I am looking for some words of encouragement and advice. I will start this off by saying I am not a member of the church but my boyfriend is a member of the LDS church. Early last year I was re-introduced to an individual at work. I say reintroduced because I had not seen him in a few years and had very rarely talked with him. Through working together we became very close and our connection grew stronger and stronger every day. I promised myself I wouldn't get involved after seeing a close friend of mine being torn down by her ex-fiances family (members of the church). Shortly after we began dating, something I never thought woould never happen. Long story short, our attraction toward one another was very strong. Our relationship then went into the fast lane. He met my family only a few weks after we officially started dating, and was welcomed with open arms. We then planned a trip to visit his family a couple months later for me to meet his parents/ siblings. His parents were not exactly thrilled with his choice of dating a non-mormon but never said too much on the subject. When we went to visit them his father was very welcoming and did his best to make me feel comfortable and at home. His mother on the other had did not seem so welcoming. In the first 4 days of our trip she barely said a full sentence to me. I understand that I may not be her first choice for her first born son but I felt that it was his decision as he is an adult. By the 4th day I felt so unwelcomed by her that I told my boyfriend I wanted him to talk to her because I was planning on changing my flight and going home. I decided not to leave because I figured that may cause damage to a relationship that may be un-repairable if we decided to later get married. The last 2 days weren't quite as bad but overall I didn't feel very accepted which was a shock for me based on the little knowledge I have about the church and their belief of family. Before anyone asks, I do not plan on converting. I was raised slightly in the episcopal Church but was raised more on values. My parents wanted me to grow to be a good person and decide things for myself whether that be with a church or not. I told my boyfriend that I was more than willing to learn about his religion and beliefs but I did not plan to ever convert. This led to lessons with missionaries every week for a couple months until he left for Utah for 4 months.I love understanding more about his religion, but it is not something I believe in. Religion is a very overwhelming topic for me based partly on my religious background, or lack there of, and my background in biological/evolutionary sciences. He knows that this was a big step for me but for him I would be willing to do almost anything. Does anybody have any words of advice? I love my boyfriend dearly and I can't imagine losing him after some of the things we have been through. Thank you in advance!