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I know about people saying marriages won't last. People gave my parents 5 years. Next year is their 25th anniversary while those who said my parents would be divorced are the ones divorced. Yes, I know we have nothing to worry about with his 2 month remark.

Update: Her dad said he isn't coming to the reception since we're getting sealed in the temple. Yes, he's a member too. Even if we do a vow thing at the reception he said he still won't come. He doesn't think he should have to give up tea and coffee to see his daughter's wedding. Nearly all of his family has nothing to do with him. He told her we won't last 2 months. My fiancee said she doesn't want him having anything to do with his future grandkids. What do you in this situation? I don't care so much about how he is toward me, I just care about how its affecting my fiancee.

I appreciate the advice given about protecting her. That's something I always do. I do find it disrespectful and immature to say "If you expect him to pay for anything you don't need to be married." How do people come to that conclusion from a "What to do about a father in law who refuses to do anything" topic?

I'm surprised by some of the answers. She knows how I feel about him and has said I have every reason to feel how I do. You people do realize its the bride's family who is supposed to pay for the reception, right? It seems like you guys are thinking I am a bad guy here. As far as invites go, he's definitely invited but if he refuses to give any help for his daughter's wedding he will not get 1 wedding photo. Aside from that, he has other issues that would prevent him from going to the temple and he's already said he won't give them up for anything. The way he treats her is appalling. Thanks Irish and anatess. Your advices were helpful

As a recently returned missionary I can tell you first hand that missionaries usually don't want to listen about every detail. We care about those we work with and want to know enough to help, but we don't need to know the full story. Some things are between the individual and someone else. Missionaries are there to help you get closer to Jesus Christ, not to be a psychologist.

My fiance and I are getting married Valentine's day in the Raleigh temple. Only her and her dad live here in NC. Her dad is less-active. He says his reason is because he prefers someone preaching to him instead of the talks we have. Her dad has said he isn't paying for anything. They don't have much money but neither do we. He has said he will literally pay for NOTHING in regards to the reception, wedding dress, etc. He has cussed her out (good Christian man, huh?), yelled at her for no reason, makes her do everything around their house while he's always on the computer, and has even said he wants nothing to do with her after she gets married. He even said we should forget about the temple, get married by a random preacher, or elope to the courthouse. My parents are sacrificing money they were going to use for their 25th wedding anniversary. What would you do in this situation? What would you say to him? FYI, I'm apexviper from before. Hi. :-)