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Hi everyone I am recently becoming active after a 20+ year hiatus and I'm really happy with the decision for the most part. I wanted to get further input on some of my questions on the unique circumstances on the word of wisdom. I have a genetic gene mutation called hemochromatosis that causes your body to store excess amounts of Iron in the body this leads to serious health problems as I age if I don't treat it properly. Anyways, I asked during one of the missionary lessons (I'm getting my kids baptised) if me drinking decaf black tea as recommended by drs, as the tannins in the tea leach out up to 90% of the iron from my meals...which is very big for us with this condition. I understand Tea is bad for the average person for the same reason its good for me.... obviously the average person doesn't want to have 90% of their iron removed from their meals. I was very shocked at the answers they gave me they basically said no still not acceptable. Then one basically said "go see a different Dr." I'm thinking, this doesn't vary from dr to dr this is an absolute fact! Then they went on to say they had a member suffering from chronic pain, or cancer, maybe both. The person asked if they could use medical marijuana prescribed by their dr to reduce the pain and discomfort as their dr tried other things and finally they recommended trying this. They self rightously said no I would find another Dr.. I thought wow that's a bit arrogant! are you the one with cancer or chronic pain? are you in this persons shoes? is vicodin or percoset or other prescription narcotics any better? I mean there is a huge grey area! it's not as if medical marijuana is illegal in my state. For the record I am against marijuana I'm not some hippy looking to promote legal marijuana etc I just think its a bit absurd to tell someone suffering that they shouldn't use it or try it to ease their suffering. I'm starting to second guess my decision to come back to this church and especially to bring my family into it....does logic existent in the minds of some of these people? interested to hear some thoughts from hopefully logical people...