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Wouldn't it make more sense to save money instead? I live in a small place and we have no spare room to store food.

Thanks. What's the deal with food storage? (Another thing I've never heard of)

Just about all of it has shocked me and especially the fact that I had no clue about it. I had no idea such a practice even existed. I'm grateful for knowing about it now but completely confused as to why I wasn't told sooner, and why I had to find out here online instead of at the ward. To be honest now I feel more left out by them than ever before.

Maybe if the church actually told new people about this sort of thing they wouldn't have to go wandering around online in the first place :/

All of the above

I know you don't baptize dead bodies

Oh my gosh I just looked it up!!!!! I'm shocked! why didn't anybody tell me about this before I got baptized? What else is there that the church doesn't tell new people

Sorry, I'm confused. Do you mean church members who aren't yet baptized and pass away get baptized in the temple? Even after their passing?

I didn't know about this. Thank you for telling me. And I'm wondering why no-one offered to do my baptism at the temple? Mine was just in the local ward chapel. It would have been great to have had it in the temple then at least I would get to see the inside of it. Do I have to know the people getting baptized in the temple or can anyone attend? Cannot believe I've been a member for so many months and no-one at my ward is telling me these things!!

Thank you very much for the links! Everything you said made perfect sense. For example I was just reading about the relief society's 175th anniversary and 3 things stuck in my mind as being contrary to my experience. It said they do the visiting teaching and I didn't even know what that was until a few days ago when I found out on this forum. I've never had a woman teacher or a man teacher come to see me. It said they meet up once a month for social activities but I've never heard of or been invited to one And it said they meet for an hour on Sundays to teach and help others but mine is just like the Sunday school class only without men. I feel like I'm in a cliquey sorority only no-one else wants me there.

The missionaries I did the lessons with are gone now. I don't know the new ones. I may try talking to the bishop but I feel awkward about it so I'll think about it some more. Just about Saturdays - I work 3 jobs and sometimes have to work Saturdays too. Because of church I now have to fit everything into that one day because I don't have time during the week (cleaning my place, grocery shopping, work, spending time with my daughter and family). It's exhausting and I never knew before I was baptized that I had to keep Sundays clear. I wish I had time on Sundays still. It feels like my weekends have been cut in half. I know for you and others it all feels normal but to me it's a huge adjustment and I'm not enjoying it.

It's hard to explain. Firstly I feel like I've lost half my weekend, and it's a lot of pressure to try and get everything done on Saturdays. It's tiring and it's stressful. Then it feels like I'm always the odd one out. That all the other people there know each other and know everything about the doctrine. I still don't know a lot and I wish I didn't always feel so lost with it all. When I go to church it feels like stepping into an alternate universe. At times I miss my old church which just felt so normal and familiar to me. Finally I still have no clue about what happens in the temple and I think that's something that new converts should be told about instead of keeping secrets from them for a year (at least) of membership. It just doesn't make sense to me and when I look it up online it's concerning to me. People at church say to me "don't look up the church online" but if I didn't how am I supposed to know anything. Also, I'm a tad resentful that I was pressured into getting baptized. I wish now that I'd made that decision at my own pace, and wasnt pushed by friends and elders. The whole process feels like a stressful blur to me now and here I am a few months later trying to stop the feelings of confusion. I just want to go to a church and feel at home. I don't feel at home lately in the LDS church, as much as I want to. I'm sorry if I'm not making much sense here

Do you mind telling me why you haven't gone to church in months? I'm just wondering if your experience has been similar to mine.

I liked going initially, there were a lot of friendly people and I felt that some of what they said was true. But I also felt a lot of pressure to join. I wanted to wait longer but they kept saying it had to done soon or I might change my mind. Sometimes I wish I'd waited longer.

Thank you!! I will ask about the home and visitor teachers and thank you very much for explaining so well what the testimony is - I finally get it!

Thanks for all your help. I actually haven't read much of the book of Mormon, maybe just the first 20 pages. My missionaries said that's ok as it wasn't required in order to do the lessons with them and get baptized. So do you think I should start reading it and that may help? Where can I order a copy? I don't think I have a testimony as yet, it sounds like most people in the church do though. Thanks for explaining about Sunday too. Not shopping or cleaning up my place on Sundays is still a bit strange to me. Can I still catch up with friends or family on Sundays? Or play sport? (Because church only takes up 3 hours at the most). Thank you for your help

I get the gist of what you're saying but I don't understand some of it. What's sabbath observance? I don't have a calling so can't be diligent about it. I do go to Sunday school at church but that's about it for scripture study. And tbh I have little understanding what a testimony is. Everyone keeps talking about a "testimony" but no-one explains what it is

I know. It's been real hard so far trying to fit in. I still don't feel like it's "my" church yet. I feel like I don't belong and I still get nervous going there. I'm wondering if this is normal and how long it lasts for. I read that when new converts stop going most stop within 2 months. I can kind of understand why because for me it's very hard joining this church and sometimes I just miss my old life

Thanks for replying. What's a visiting teacher? And I've never heard of lessons after being baptized.

How do I do this? Since joining the church I've felt overwhelmed and very isolated. I don't even understand what a testimony is, sorry.

Someone on here mentioned a worthiness interview but I don't know what this is. Can anyone explain what it is please? Worthy for what?

Haha no! Im definitely not craving either of those!

He already knows I'm struggling because I stopped going to church for a while and he got in touch. I started going again but still have feelings of confusion. And I haven't felt the spirit even once since being baptized. It's all been really tough so far. Given everything that's happened so far I think me drinking coffee would be the last thing the bishop is worried about. It's good to hear you sound so positive, thanks for your advice.

Thanks. Unfortunately I'm allergic to chocolate (including hot chocolate), I don't like the chicory drink at all and can't stand herbal teas. I don't really miss coffee and tea all that much, it was strange how the recent craving for a coffee just hit me out of the blue.

Hi, what's a worthiness interview? I mean to say, worthy for what and what is the interview?