Katrina

It's not like I expect a doctor or lawyer salary to live on. But yes, I guess I do want people to look at my lifestyle and see what Mormons are capable of.

Thanks for your thoughts. Some of them were a slap in the face, but I was prepared for that. To answer a few questions, my fiance is a sophomore, has mostly just done some generals, and I'm a junior. We dated before our missions and for a year after before getting engaged. I also grew up with not much fancy, but my parents were always pointing out the importance of showing the world just how good Mormons can be. I guess I was always taught that we need to be an example in all things, and that includes being successful in careers. I realize there are plenty of wonderful Saints in third-world countries, but those aren't here. My fiance was planning on working in public counseling, but he has talked about teaching since high school. I get where he's coming from. It might be cold feet. I will take the suggestion to go the temple.

My fiance and I have been engaged for about two months. I know this probably sounds incredibly shallow, but he has recently changed his major in school and wants to go into education rather than the psychology program he was in. He asked me my thoughts about it, and I at first I didn't mind and just wanted to support his dream. However, now that our wedding date is coming closer, I find myself really bothered by his major. I know a number of teachers and they all seem to make it all right even on one income, but it just doesn't seem... righteous. I know this sounds crazy, but it seems every single Mormon mentioned in the media is a great example of success. All the GAs have or had high-income careers. I know we shouldn't crave wealth, but isn't it a sign of righteous living just the same? I feel so shallow with this, especially since we are living as poor students anyway, but I'm not sure I want the quality of life a teacher would provide, even with a masters, after watching friends and family who live that way. Should I ask him to change his major back? At the same time, I also don't want him in a career he's bitter about. I just want us in a position to be a good example.