[Harassment with being Child-Free]

52 minutes ago, mdfxdb said:

You and your husband made a decision which is specifically contrary to the teachings of the church.  Now you want encouragement/advice?  

Ok, ignore them.  

You have lost friends over this?  Were they really your friend?  

Are you "friends" with people who have different belief systems than you do, but still go to church with you? 

So the fact we decided not to reproduce makes us going against the church?

So the church would encourage us to reproduce even though there is a 90% chance our children will get a disease

that will kill them before they reach 5 years of age?

I don't think the church would encourage a family going through that heartbreak.

[Harassment with being Child-Free]

My husband and I have decided to be child-free. He has had a vasectomy. We also tend to move fairly frequently (one a year/ every 2 years), which means new wards/meeting new people. Whenever I hit Relief Society I get the  "So how many kids do you have" type questions. I respond with "none. We aren't having kids." or something similar. And I immediately get hit with a sigh, or "you'll change your mind later sweetie". They just don't seem to grasp the fact we don't want kids and we are happy. Once people get to know me and they pursue more, I tell them No we are sure. My husband got a vasecotmy. We won't be changing our mind. We have lost friends over this because we are going against the church. 

I have never liked kids and never wanted one. 

Anybody else going through something similar or can offer words of encouragement / advice on how to deal with it. 

It got so bad in my last ward that whenever family came up in class and they started talking about children/grandchildren a lot of the older women would stare at me and start whispering and I could hear my name.    My husband doesn't have the same issue. They ask about his kids and he says "No. we arent having kids" and the elders class is like ok whatever. He doesn't get any of the harrassment I do so he doesn't understand so I can't really talk to him about it. He thinks Im over-reacting.