It's easy to say what you would or wouldn't do when you still have your spouse. We had a family friend who lost his wife in his late 50's. She had been very sick with relapsed cancer for over a year. They were both school teachers and very active in church. Their kids were grown. He quit his job and took care of her for a year before her passing. He started dating someone just shy of six months after her passing and was remarried just shy of a year. He remarried a church woman. I thought it was too soon at the time. Fast forward almost 20 years and my wife became really sick. She was sick for several years. I was in my early 40's. I quit my full-time job and took care of her until she passed away a year later. I was with her 14 hours a day except two days a month when I did my drill weekend for military reserves. I would've quit that job to be with her every day of the month, but we needed military insurance. She was mentally with it until she took her last breath. Several weeks after my wife passed I started thinking about dating again. I didn't think I'd have those feelings before my wife passed. I loved my wife and we had an awesome marriage. I wish we could've grown old together. But I couldn't bring her back. She is in her perfect Heavenly home praising God!! Long story short, I married a widow who was active in church about a year after my late wife's passing.
