Thanks all I appreciate the advice and support.
@Vort I really appreciate your support & encouragement.
@seashmore Thanks for the link, I will check that out!
@Jane_Doe We aren’t in counseling currently, and I do think we are capable of elevating our quality of communication before resorting to more therapy.
@anatess2 That is a great question because I agree it can have many different definitions. I guess I’m referring more to the noun, or the spark, than the verb. I guess want her to love me for who I am and not what I do.
Thanks @Sunday21 for the reassurance ?
Thank you for your kind words @zil. I know I have a lot of work to do.
@Midwest LDS I totally agree, thank you for your support.
@my two cents I have generally accepted it was the ppd talking, but a small part of me just won’t let it go. I agree that I need to though. You are spot on with your perception that her love is more practical and I was hoping for a little more lovey-doviness coming my way. The “what you feed grows” resonates a lot, and I appreciate that advice.
Thank you for the support @MormonGator. Feeling the love.
@Dillon I agree there are some pieces of work out there, and I have found that when I watch too many gold-digger prank videos on youtube that one can fall into the trap of assuming all women are just in it for money or security, but that is a skewed perception. And after having dealt with depression and researching it, I agree with @Jane_Doe 100% that it is “a major clinical condition which warps the suffer's perception and memory, shrouding it in darkness and hopelessness,” and I think it’s too bad we are debating these things here.
@prisonchaplain I have the feeling if she read your response about what she needs-unreciprocated love to feel safe-that she would agree 100%. I appreciate the words, they ring true.
@mdfxdb I remember seeing the movie a while back, I will look into the book. That's actually popped into me head a few times.
@JoCa I think you are right. I need to stop worrying about the wrong things and shift my focus. I appreciate your words and reminder of my priorities.