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Again, I have gotten what I needed. I'm sorry you read my comment wrong. I was stating a fact. And I'm moving forward and don't need anything else answered. I don't know why that is coming across as claws. I'm literally just letting people know

Ps. This was not an "old flame" again assuming you know way more about the situation than I gave you information on.

As I previously stated, I already found what I was looking for. And if you read all the comments you would also know what I meant by judgment. You are also assuming a lot of things that you know nothing about. I already got my answers so I'm not looking for anything further. Should I say it again? I already got my questions answered, so I don't need anything else.

I have gotten what I needed. Not looking for anything else. If there was a way to turn off the comments I totally would. Thanks for asking ?

This is assuming way too much. Several makeout sessions?? Where did you get that idea? I have stated many times in this post what I am here for so if you choose to not believe me, that's on you

And yes, there have been lots of things on here that have hurt me. So no, I don't usually respond that way

Valid question. Simply because I know what I did was wrong and I didn't want a bunch of people commenting and telling me things I already know. I just wanted my questions answered. I looked through and saw how some people reacted and commented on other posts who had done something sinful and that wasn't what I was looking for. I knew it would still happen, but I hoped that it would be less than what others got. I believe it has been less.

I was talking about that one person as well. So I believe I did understand you which is why I said if that was the case and I took offense to it in the way you said, then I would have reacted that way to everyone who said something that hurt me, which I didn't react that way to everyone, so your statement isn't applicable

If that's what I was doing I would've gotten upset with most comments on here. Agree to disagree

Haha thanks for the humor. And yes, we are sealed... ?

It isn't that I don't read long posts. I just don't take people's opinions into my life if they are the kind of people who just want to get a rise out of others which is what that guy was doing. You are not doing that, so I gladly will read what others have to say

I have no idea what it is that you know because what you said is not applicable to me. The pain didn't go deeper like you wanted it to. There seems to be a lot about pornography that you are unaware of.

Not the case. I came here looking for courage and help understanding what in the world I got myself into. I got that from everyone but two people so far and you are one of them. So please leave.

This is true. But I do want y'all to know my husband has told me multiple times that I'm the reason he is getting stronger because I'm patient and try to help him. So yes, I'm angry, but that doesn't mean I always take it out on him. So in this case, that's not an issue

Thank you for the tone of your comments. It's refreshing to hear the side you need to hear in a way that has some compassion to it instead of condemnation. I understand what you're saying which is why I'm in counseling. I can't seem to let go of the hurt I've felt these past 5+ years. The moment I feel like I've got it under control, he'll mess up again and it all comes back which tells me I never got past it in the first place. I don't know how. I am currently figuring that out.

I am not the sole reason there's no passion. I would love it if you wouldn't judge everything and assume you know the details about the situation. You know only small details of what I've said. Just like EVERY relationship, there's always more going on than you know about. So stop being a jerk.

I didn't read this whole novel and don't intend to. You have no idea what the rest of our marriage entails. You only know what I've told you. He kinda already knows something has happened he just doesn't know exactly and he already told me we'll work through it so before you assume you know everything about this situation, sit back and realize you have absolutely no idea all of everything that is happening

I didn't feel judgement from you so thank you for that. What you said was very clear and informative. And yes, there are a ton of guys who don't view themselves having an addiction to porn as anything close to as bad as something physical. I was however told by a bishop once that the steady and reoccurring porn addiction is actually quite similar. So I think it all really depends and leave that up to Heavenly Father.

Thank you so much for your kind words. It was so great to hear so little judgement as the first comment. Everything you said helped me feel more confident about going to the bishop and starting that process.

I have been cheated on in the past and I will tell you, what he's doing with pornography feels the exact same as when I was cheated on. Maybe it's not that same feeling for everyone when their spouse has a porn problem, but it feels the exact same to me. I'm not saying which sin is worse because honestly I feel that is completely up to Heavenly Father and I do think situation plays a role in everything so he will decide in this circumstance.

A few months before I got married my husband told me of his long standing porn issue. He said he'd been doing really well and it wasn't until 6 months after we were married that he told me he was struggling again. Fast forward 6 years... I'm completely broken. There's absolutely no passion in our marriage, I'm angry at him all the time. I'm in counseling and he's been off and on doing well with his addiction, but I do not feel attractive to him. We recently decided to separate so I can just heal and I wanted to see if he can be strong without me nagging him. It has been so relieving. I don't struggle with image issues when he's not around, I'm completely confident and I like myself. However, he treats my like a queen and I've literally never taken the garbage out our whole entire marriage. He's an amazing dad to our boy. He's so kind and giving it's unbelievable which is why I'm still with him. But I made a huge mistake while being on my own. I let myself flirt with a guy from years ago that I made out with once. And I let him come over to my house (this is all over the course of a few months). We made out. I never in a million years thought I would do something like that. But I felt passion and chemistry, something I haven't felt with my husband for almost our entire marriage and so I messed up... And I feel horrible. Obviously I'm going to talk to the bishop and I've already decided to tell my husband. There was petting involved but I want to know what I can expect maybe? What's the punishment for that? And... Is having a super kind husband who treats me like a queen enough to stay in a marriage where I'm constantly living in fear of the next time he'll choose the internet over me? He's working on it and I always told myself as long as he's trying, I'll stay, but I'm so broken. And we have a kid who I don't want to take him away from his dad. I'm pretty sure he'll forgive me and I don't want to get in that situation again, but I just want to be prepared for the discipline I'm facing...