Jason100278

Thank you. I than Heavenly Father for her every day. I am thankful we are both able to attend temple now. The meeting with the Stake President was Sunday. It was emotionally as bad as I expected. I don't like to talk about my emotional struggles in dealing with my ex wife's death. It doesn't matter how many years have past all that guilt and hurt comes right back to the surface. Hopefully this will be the last time I have to discuss it at church.

The First Presidency is a fourth party. If there were transgressions then they were talked about with the the Bishop and the Stake Presidency. If a probation was warranted then that too was handled at the local level. It didn't go up to the First Presidency. it was all settled at the local level. There is no need to rehash all of this for a 4th time.

My future wife and I have discussed most of the marriage. She knows there were things that happened on my wife's part that could require a sealing cancellation vers a sealing clearance. We have discussed this. But what happened should be between my future wife, God and me. The church shouldn't be able to have an opinion.

I was baptized in 2005. My wife and I were civilly married in 2007. We had to wait to go to the temple for a year before sealing. I wasn't upset about this. what I am upset about is her drug addiction and our divorce because of it. 10 months exactly after the divorce was final she died of a drug overdose. Fast forward 5 years and no one mentions I need a sealing clearance letter to be sealed to my future wife. i do not agree with the church wanting to bring up all that happened in that marriage. It's not fair to my late wife to have all that brought up again. It's not fair to my future wife to hear how I was hurt and scared. It's not fair for me to have to not only tell it but also relive it.