Phoebe

I'm no expert but I can definitely relate to your dilemma. My husband and I have been in marriage counseling for about a month.. He has issues with our marriage that have taken priority over my issues.. one of which is the lack of intimacy. He is an older man and when we were dating, I felt he was very attracted to me, but I knew he struggled with ED. It wasn't something that bothered me - intimacy has many dimensions and he was very proactive in trying to find solutions. However, now we have been married for 3 1/2 years and he has given up on trying to do anything about it. He has no interest / or desire to revive. I think the first step is to talk to your husband and find out if he understand how you feel and recognizes that it's a problem for you. Then hopefully you can both work on a path towards something mutual.