Well I guess I have a different approach to all of this. I have not served in the military but have friends whom have and have told me that receiving text, email, video etc of there spouse was a common practice. They said it was arousing yes but kept them from looking at Porn etc which is very prevalent in the Military bases. I totally agree with him that is 100% fine to do as long as both parties are comfortable with it. If you spouse isn't into it then you shouldn't ask for it. I think its awesome personally that they feel comfortable enough with each other that they are able to do this for one another. Am I way off target here? I don't think so. After reading the book "Between Husband and Wife" I have come to the conclusion that it is just that, "Between Husband and Wife." Do I feel it's pornography? Nope. It's your wife, your not lusting after another woman and I think it can be healthy for a relationship if both parties are on the same page. Read the book. It gave me some other interesting points that I never thought about like how not all women can reach climax from regular penetration and that other methods may need to be used to make sure that Love making is both enjoyable for not only the Man but for the Woman also. We have asked a Bishop before about battery operated devices and he also told us the same thing. If both of you are comfortable then have fun. Love making is to be enjoyed, not a chore.. Your opinions may vary but this is how I feel. As far as finding these conversations, photo's, video's in court, why would they ever end up there? We own our phones and don't send stuff to other people so I don't get the whole show it in court theory.