Dr. Mom
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You are right... when Aug rolled around, the stores were showing fall clothes and my sis and I would go shopping with Mom and we'd each get two or three new sweater/skirt outfits on LAY-AWAY (thanks for the chuckle... kids today think LayAway? What's that??). By time the the weather cooled, we'd finished paying for our clothes. Are you too young or do you remember how our sweaters/skirts matched, and we wore white bucks with colored socks to match our skirts... The goal was to dress as "sharp" as we could... I remember carrying a little pouch filled with white powder that came with our bucks, and if we got a scuff we would powder it out... Ha! I can see some of the gals scratching their head... huh?
I didn't own a poodle skirt... but wore a pony tail...
Every year one of our special dances was called the Twin Sweater Dance... sponsored by Hi-Tri (YWCA service club). The girls asked the boys, and we wore the same color sweaters... held the dance in the gym...
Every month at school there was a special dance of some type... Valentine's Ball, sock hops, homecoming, Christmas Ball, Spring Fling etc., culminating with the Jr.-Sr. Prom... for the prom we always had a "name" band... it was always competition to see which school could get the biggest name band... we had Ray Anthony, Harry James and Ben Pollack my three years in H.S. Dancing was very much a part of our lives...
What a fun memory... Garden Girl
I'm smiling big. I remember! For the record, I still do the pony tail thing.
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A Patriarchal blessing in the family setting is not a function of the Priesthood. It is the right, the exclusive right, of the Father / Husband. In fact, no priesthood is even necessary for a Father / Husband to bless his wife / children.
The Father stands at the head of the home, the Church does not.
I find it shameful that the Church would suppose to exercise authority over the family Patriach where no such authority exists.
John-
By what authority would you suggest someone bless their family?
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Dr. Mom... I hear ya... wasn't the music great... and songs had real lyrics... remember all those romantic songs... and how each dance would have the "last dance," usually Goodnight, Sweetheart.
I'm glad for and welcome the many good ways we have progressed in society... medicine, science, technology, etc., but I think there is a "spirit" that is missing from younger people today that they don't understand that we had. I don't necessarily want to go backward, but I do miss some aspects of "the good old days." I think the standards/activities/family values of the Church come closest to what I'm referring to, but society in general seems to be lacking. That's just my opinion.
And today's dancing and music plays a part of that...
Garden Girl
You couldn't be closer to reality, GG. Today's kids are part of the "it's mine now" era. I remember having to work for the things I wanted. Layaway was a gift from the heavens! Now if kids want something, especially if it's expensive, they slap a credit card down and get it because if they wait until they have the cash the item will be obsolete and the next newest item will always be more expensive than the funds they have. I remember when holding hands meant something. Hubby and I still hold hands everywhere, but we're considered old now. Society is lacking the manners, the respect and the desire to never settle for second best. I could go on and on, but you know the rest. And to think it's only going to get worse...
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I love to dance!! And in my day, I could jitterbug with the best of them... now I can picture some of you young'uns out there saying... Huh? Jitterbug
Think Big Band era with Tommy Dorsey, Benny Goodman, Glenn Miller... I also grew up in the Doo-Wop era... the beginning of Rock N Roll when our folks thought we were lost for sure... but it was innocent fun... What could be more innocent than "See Ya Later Allegator...After While Crocodile" or Sha-Boom, Sha Boom... It's been years since I've been to a dance, but I can't believe the way teens dance these days... it's jaw-dropping to see them bump and grind... and definitely NOT LDS... I assume young adults dance "modestly."
What to wear to a dance? Something modest and not body clinging... Sparkles? In good taste...
Have fun... The Garden Girl
Ah the days of real music! I love to listen to Brian Setzer or the Squirrel Nut Zippers now. When we lived in Socal we would go to the Queen Mary and listen to the Big Bands play and dance our legs off. <sigh> Those were the days!
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When reporting objectionable comments, will you please quote and name the poster in question? The report only brings me to the page it's on.
Thank you,
Seraphim
Seraphim-
I'm part moron. How do you quote and name a poster that is disrespectful? I don't have anyone to complain about now, but I think it would be helpful for future use.
Gratzi!
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Chocolate cake!! (though pie is good to)...
Classical Music or Rock and Roll??
I'll split the difference, CLASSIC ROCK AND ROLL! AEROSMITH, BON JOVI, SANTANA, WHITE SNAKE, ooops....I'm showing my age/rebelliousness.
Berber carpeting or area rugs?
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I believe that those who are ordained unto His Holy Priesthood are bound to exercise it on behalf of those who ASK. Therefore, those who feel a need to call upon the Elders of His church in NEED of a blessing for "anything" will receive their request.
I have never seen any doctrine upon how many times a person may ask the Lord for his blessings? What a covenant these faithful men take upon themselves as they walk with the Master.
Ask and it shall be given...
How that comes to those who ask is not known to those of us who may be "looking" upon these situations from the outside, for we cannot judge the HEART of any individual, regardless of what we THINK we know. Personally, if something does not work for me, I stop buying it.
Faith is what is required, if only that of a grain of mustard. For some, that may literally be all that they have, and for them daily a blessing becomes manna unto life.
When ye have done it unto one the least of these my brethren, ye have done it unto me. I believe we are speaking of the poor in spirit, health, means, knowledge, etc...
So when we give of ourselves to the least deserving of our time, who may least lack the ability to receive our offering... to the Savior this is as if it were giving unto Him.
He came unto his own and they received Him not... how much this must have hurt as evidence in the record of Third Nephi.
tdmg,
gVr
The Prophet Joseph Smith actually taught that the person who receives the blessing can ask as many times as is necessary for them to feel the Spirit. Granted the person receiving the blessing needs to make every effort to be in tune with the Spirit because the Spirit speaks to the heart and the words of the blessing are heard through physical ears. I don't think there is such a thing as excessive blessings if the person who is receiving it has prepared themselves and has humbled themselves to the will of the Father. Only the person who receives the blessing can answer that for certain.
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A Father / Husband has the Patriarchal RIGHT to bless his family at any time. It has nothing whatsoever to do with Priesthood Authority.
It is the Father's exclusive right to do so.
John-
Please understand that the Priesthood of God is not granted to every man regardless of worthiness. It is the power to act in His name with His will. How can you even suggest that an unworthy individual could possibly be in tune with the Spirit? I think pride is a churchwide problem that doesn't just affect the men, the women also suffer from prideful issues. The topic here and now is about being worthy to give a blessing. Worthiness will always be an issue when it comes to acting on behalf of God. On the flipside, I know plenty of women who refuse to accept blessings from certain men in the church merely because they have passed judgement on them. While this is unfair, I feel that being worthy to receive a blessing is just as important as being worthy to get one. It takes alot of courage for some to ask for blessings and when feelings get hurt it makes it more difficult to request one.
If I could hand over a piece of advice I would say that it is the responsibility of each of us to ensure we are worthy in the eyes of our Father at all times. We are promised the companionship of the Spirit if we strive to live as we should, this includes resolving issues that could have an adverse effect on our spiritual growth. I have personally been benefitted from the blessings of the Priesthood and cannot even fathom the idea of not having access to it. Granted my husband is not around 100% of the time so sometimes it becomes necessary to ask other Priesthood holders for a blessing, but in the end those blessings are authored by Jesus Christ Himself; the person giving the blessing is just the mouthpiece, however a worthy mouthpiece.
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insurance ratesLittle green car
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I'll pick the bug since I don't know what the other one is.
Fiction or non-fiction?
You don't know what a Masarati is???? Oh honey, I need to take you for a drive!
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chocolate chip!
kinda crazy or totally insane?
Kinda crazy....have to have a goal to shoot for, no?
Maserati or Volkswagon Bug?
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dental hygieneMr Bean
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I'm on my stake's emergency prep. committee as well. After Katrina hit we got a lot of people relocated here in AZ which meant some adjustments for us. I wasn't a part of that aftermath, however. I was part of a mobile medical team in New Orleans and saw firsthand the things that would help my stake once I returned home. It's a deeply humbling experience to learn from tragedy and those lessons are taught far too frequently, friends. It's time to wake up and act instead of react, prepare instead of relying on knee-jerk planning. We've been given resources for a reason and we'd be foolish to ignore the gifts.
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I know I can't be the only person who is a member and is married to a non-member. Can anyone out there give me some suggestions of how to bring the gospel and spirit into your home without making your spouse feel like he or she is being compromised? What are some subtle ways to handle that sort of situation?
Courtney-
Perhaps the best thing you can possibly do is be an example. It's the best thing because it is who you are, you don't have to convince anyone that you have the Spirit with you. I know it sounds overly simple but it's the truth. My family get togethers consist of members and non members. For a long time we thought we'd have to walk on eggshells during certain topics. We were so wrong. We have found being open, upfront and tenderly honest is the best way to go. We haven't converted any of our non member family members, but we have a new mutual respect for each other. Hope this helps!
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Raspberry
Spice cake w/ peanut butter frosting or Chocolate marble cake with chocolate raspberry frosting?? with a HUGE glass of cold milk
Chocolate marble with all the goods.
Tumbled travertine or ceramic tile floors?
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Holly-Well everyone, I am once again depressed about David and I. I am hoping that time will heal all wounds and that him and I will be back together in the future.
No one said it was going to be easy. You need to find something to do besides thinking of David. I have found that when I volunteer my worries seem less than I thought they were. Now's a great time to lend a hand! Find a place and go for it- lose yourself in the service of others.
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Hello everyone. I have just recently found this forum and decided to join it. My name is Courtney and I am an inactive member. I was baptized back on September 22, 1996. I was so happy in the church! The spirit was strong in my life and I finally felt like my search for the one true church was over.
When I turned 18 the following year (and was in the middle of my senior year of high school) I was moved out of the Young Women's program and into the Relief Society. I felt very uncomfortable in there, surrounded by these women who were all more than 5 years older than me. They were all talking about how to be a good wife and mother. And I hadn't even graduated yet! It felt very weird. After high school my Bishop suggested that I go to the singles ward, one hour east of where I lived. Well at the time I was commuting to college, which was a half hour west of where I lived. I really saw no sense in having to go to the singles ward. Besides, I wasn't ready for marriage. I wanted to go to school and graduate and get my teaching degree in music education. I politely declined his request to go to the singles ward and let him know that I was not interested in rushing into marriage or having kids. Strangely enough, a few weeks later he came to me with a calling in the church nursery of all places. I figured I would try it, so here I am, 18 years old and working in the nursery. I spent a couple of months there and just never did feel comfortable. It felt to me that their whole motive behind it was to make me learn to adore babies and want to go get married and start creating my own.
During this time I began dating a guy named Adam, who was in the band with me at college. He was my same age and we got along great! He also knew of my LDS beliefs and never tried to pressure me into anything that would compromise my chances of visiting the temple. Well my friends back at church learned that I was dating a non-member and they discussed this with the Bishop. The next week he asked me to see if Adam would come to the church and meet with him. So I talked to Adam and he agreed. We went to the church on a Saturday evening and the three of us talked with the Bishop. The entire conversation was about Adam's beliefs and if he ever thought he would convert to the church. After we left, Adam told me that he was uncomfortable with my church and would never set foot in there again. And the following day at Sacrament meeting the Bishop pulled me aside and strongly advised me to stop seeing Adam.
I felt that who I dated was no one's business but my own and ended up just stopping attending church. I never went back after that Sunday. Adam and I married 5 years later but the marriage was shot lived. We did produce our daughter and a year after her birth I divorced him for reasons that I will not go into on this board. We worked out all our issues and parted on good terms for the sake of our daughter, who we decided would remain with him since I had decided to move 1800 miles away. I left Georgia and moved to Fargo, North Dakota.
I have since met and married a wonderful man named Thomas and we are expecting our first child together. Thomas knows of my beliefs in the church and he knows why I chose to leave the first time. Although I physically stopped going, I never stopped believing in the church doctrines and the majority of my beliefs are still LDS. I have tried other religions but nothing filled my heart with the spirit like the LDS church did, in spite of my differences in opinions with the Bishop. However, in looking back on the situation, I believe the Bishop was right. I think he was being led by the spirit to tell me that Adam would do me no good in the long run and to turn from him. But I was a stubborn teenager who thought that I knew everything. In looking back I wish I had listened to my Bishop and stopped dating Adam before things got serious. He was right and he was trying to get me to do what would have been best for me. I know that now, 10 years later. I just wish I could go back and listen to his advice. It would have spared me YEARS of pain and grief, really.
Now for my current situation. Since moving to North Dakota, I have gotten involved in paganism. Yeah, witchcraft. I know, not the wisest choice to make, really. My husband and I are members of a pagan coven that meets at my house. And all of our friends (except for one lady) are all pagans as well. I have mentioned my desire to return to the church to my husband once and he said he'd prefer for me to remain pagan. As I look back I realize that I turned from my beliefs to satisfy a man once and it ended up really screwing up my life. I can't do this again. So I am looking for advice on how to leave paganism and return to the church without destroying my perfectly happy family. I adore my husband and do not want to ever lose him. My hopes are that someday he will want to go to church with me. But if he doesn't I will be just fine with him being accepting of my choice to go and not try to stop me.
Sorry for this being so long, but I think I just had to vent and get it all out. Any advice ytou have will be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
Courtney
Courtney-
I wish there was an easy answer for you. In the end you need to do what your heart says is right. If your husband truly loves you no matter what he'll understand your need to come back to church. It may take him some time to understand, but with prayer and faith he can learn to accept the happiness that awaits you in being active in church again. It's going to be easier said than done and Satan knows your weaknesses, but I can promise you that it is well worth the fight. It's not too late. Making that first step back will be your hardest. You can do this! WE MISS YOU!
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Kentucky fried chicken
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food poisoning!
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4/10's
pink cotton candy or blue cotton candy
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pink!
Harley Davidson or Piaggio? (getting a glare ready for anyone who knocks my italian beauty)
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been there done that
oh ahhh....tropicana girls!!!
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anorexia
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car
skip or gallop?
skip...i'd look like a horse if i galloped.
4 10 hour days or 10 4 hour days?
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I have contected missionaries and am currently thinking and swinging between LDS and Unitarianism. As far as I'm concerned I am not mentally ill, and this is all just divine influence, but my mother thinks I am not if fit mind and my psychitrists (note the plural) believe I am mentally ill, suffering from psychosis.
The Truth, according to my son, the one who hijacks my thoughts and I used to see and hear (now no longer due to stupid medication), is contained in LDS and Unitarian writings, so I don't know. A lot of LDS teachings make sense, but so do Unitarian beliefs.
Danage-
Whoa....with all due respect, you are swinging all over the place here. I'm not sure which part to tackle first... The fact you said you believe your son when he says someone can hijack your thoughts is proof something in the medication you're taking is not right. Note there are many forms of mental illness and I am not here to diagnose you or anyone else. But I do believe you need help. The question remains: Are you willing to take the help that's given? When was the last time you were monitored and had your meds checked out? I'm not trying to be mean or hurtful because I really care and I want to see you happy. I think once your meds are straightened out and underway you can lead a productive life and the confusion you are experiencing will ease off.
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I'm no doctor but it seems they should be able to test some other way rather than make them drink alcohol, is there not?
Yes, there are other ways of determining if a liver is viable or not. I think what Dr. House wanted to see was if Colin would abandon his values for the sake of medicine. While the show does twist things around a bit, I can tell you that similar things happen on my floor at the hospital. Everyone knows I'm LDS and a mom of 4 and every now and again I'll get a "challenge" to see what I'm made of. It's illegal in some cases and goes too far in others. But I have seen firsthand the blessings of remaining faithful to my Father in Heaven. Please remember House is TV, they can pretty much do anything if it means people will watch.
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But is this no blood thing a mystery or a misstatement? If we are to assume that human physiology continues in a perfected state, then leaving out a critical ingredient seems more a misstatement. Did someone just make this up?
Moksha-
You're missing something valuable here. HUMAN PHYSIOLOGY is just that- human. Being human means we're in a mortal state of existance in the eternal perspective of life. You can't mix human physiology with a perfected body.
Think Big Band era with Tommy Dorsey, Benny Goodman, Glenn Miller... I also grew up in the Doo-Wop era... the beginning of Rock N Roll when our folks thought we were lost for sure... but it was innocent fun... What could be more innocent than "See Ya Later Allegator...After While Crocodile" or Sha-Boom, Sha Boom... 
Returned Missionary Doubting The Church And God
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I know that in times like these one is encouraged to read the scriptures regularly and pray. Perhaps I should not give up on that as I have. But I also worry that by doing this daily activities it will kind of force me to believe just enough not to question so much...but then I'll eventually falter and lose faith again.
Searcher-
All I know is that you're unhappy. And if you always do what you've always done, you'll always get what you've always got. Faith in God grows with you and you will never tire of it if you truly want it. God does not expect us to sit back and not question things, but He does expect obedience and faith. You're a returned missionary, son. This is what you taught for 2 years- to seek the Lord, take His name upon you and then strive to never lose touch. Can I ask something? What else has been going on in your life? I sense something else is a bit off... Feel free to privately email me if you wish. My life's experiences have taught me that you just don't go from being an active LDS member to doubting the church overnight.