I have been reading peoples opinions on this topic and come to a very sad conclusion…firstly due to personal experiences I am sad at the way in which the second wife has been condemned and demonised, name called and a long list of things she must do to be worthy!
Secondly…is the church not meant to be understanding, forgiving and full of love and acceptance of everyone, not judgmental and cruel and blatantly cold.
from my own personal experience I chose not to be sealed to my husband who is already sealed to his first wife because I didn’t feel right doing that when he is married already in the temple, I have experienced on many occasions in the past (not my current husband) what it feels like to be just an option and have to fight for someone you love and share them. I do not want to spent eternity feeling that way! It’s a very dark place. I never once asked my husband to have his sealing cancelled to his first wife, my husband chose to do that all by himself. I did however pray about it and was ready to accept that if the sealing was not cancelled then there is still some unfinished buisness with his previous wife whether in this life or the next! God knows everything that I can and can’t handle And I know I couldn’t ever be in that situation again( even in heaven) God knows my heart and knows who I am that’s all that matters I trust him. Not the opinions of people who don’t know me or my situation. Same for the people in question, instead of being judgemental, (not a trait of Jesus) try opening your heart. (Which is ) I love my husband and would never force him to chose and maybe one day I will feel in my heart it’s right but for now I have my (free agency ) to decide for my self what I feel is the right thing even if to everyone else it’s wrong. Just one other thing if I was rich I would treat the cleaner exactly the same as the ceo regardless of degrees and money, just because no one is better than anyone else…,likewise The god I know would treat the convert exactly the same as the people born into the church, regardless of their level of understanding with patience and love. one day we will all be judged not on who knows the most doctrine and scriptures but what’s inside your heart! ❤️
