MamaTeddyBear

Just one suggestion about brick wall individuals. Do what you can with them and then let it go for a bit. Then go back every so often and check to see what is available. Twice so far I have had that work for me. Just don't forget to go back to that individual. The first time after letting it go for a bit. Late at night I got a wild idea ...to go and look for this person under the last married name she had. This was my husband's mother (his parents divorced when he was still a baby) his paternal grandparents raised him for a few years, then his father had taken over and remarried several times. I still am not sure I have all the stepmothers involved. Finally late one night just before falling asleep and thinking about his mom, I got the impression to look under his mother's last known last name and the social security index. Sure enough there she was. I had my husband go down to SS and get her info from their records. Later I found another roadblock on this same line, mother's father I couldn't get any info. Then I heard from the family that the father listed was a step father. After some more patient waiting, suddenly out of now where (it would seem) the biological father's name showed up on Family Search. Now I just have to wait some more...maybe even attempt to contact some of the names that submitted his name, Frank Lansinger, born in Taylorsville Utah around 1893-1903. It will happen one day. The dead end names will eventually be found for everyone. Patience is definitely a virture in Family History. MamaTeddyBear

I don't know about that one year thing for the M Priesthood. My son-in-law still doesn't have it and it's been 7years since he joined the Church. By now it has worked against him and the Church this attitude that someone seems to have. My son-in-law sees the male portion of the membership as an old boys club that he is not to sure he wants any part of. He is in now a position that I would hate to see any convert in. Pushed into a corner and not important to anyone in leadership. The closest he may have come to getting the Melchezidek Priesthood was years ago when a branch president asked him "are you happy where you are or do you want to move forward?" never did the word Melchezidek enter the conversation. Young man was so busy with helping his parents, starting a new job with the government and still getting used to married life, he was pretty sure he was a bit busy and didn't really want any more work to do. So he said he was happy as he was. Talk about poor communication. He has yet to be approached again. This one event was about three years ago. Is it any wonder why he doesn't understand what his in-laws are trying to talk to him about?? MamaTeddyBear

I am not sure about any advice being the perfect answer. Though first and most important from my viewpoint is do both parties in this marriage want to work on restoring the marriage. If the answer to this is yes, then comes the next step working on trust issues. Bringing back the love will only happen after trust can be reestablished. Somewhere in here you have to talk to your bishop and see if he can offer you some guidance, in some areas the Church social services can be of help too. Also you both would have to pray together very regularily to get through this. Lots of individual prayer through out each day. For the one that wasn't straying...pray for understanding, compassion, forgiveness etc. For the one that made the mistake maybe pray for understanding of where your companion is coming from about trusting you, pray for patience because it will take your companion what will seem a long time to rebuild the trust. For both of you work daily on trust. One to keep giving the other reasons to trust you..for the other to try and trust. All of this is going to be very hard but if your love and marriage are worth it to you you can make this succeed. Once you can trust each other love can start growing, in fact it often will grow along with the trust. Build Trust and love will start to follow. Oh and also I almost forgot ...Ask Heavenly Father for His forgiveness too. Because trust with Him was broken too. hopefully this will help MamaTeddyBear