hi digitalbath,
Redhead is right about the English women. We are not brought up to expect an RM as most of the males here are converts. Just being an RM is not necessarily a guarantee that he is a good guy. My daughter married a RM in Utah, he turned out not to be what she thought.
So I would say that it's the people in your ward who need to repent if they have given you a hard time for not going on a mission. Jesus told us to love one another and you are right we will be judged for what we do here, so just do your best and find yourself a ward with good lds people who don't judge.
Come to England I am sure you would be more than welcome, LOL. take care
